The Longer The Wait, The Sweeter The Release?

Yesterday, Mrs. Lion wrote in her post that she feels she is failing me as a keyholder. Nothing could be further from the truth. It’s my fault she feels this way. I am too ready to communicate what I think might work for me. No, it isn’t topping from the bottom, but it is clearly way too much information. The fact is that she is doing a great job. She keeps me locked up with absolutely no hope that will ever end. She teases me regularly and has learned to ignore my grumbles. Great progress. Her ideas about the future are excellent. I think the goals she gave herself yesterday are sensible and will be effective. Maybe it’s really my fault. Maybe I am not changing the way she thought I should. In any case I am committed to doing whatever it takes to be the male she wants and needs.

I’ve been wondering about male orgasms, mine in particular. If I wait for ten or twenty days and then finally get an orgasm, will it feel better than one I get after only two days of waiting? In other words, does a longer wait really make my orgasm sweeter. Common wisdom, or at least what you read on blogs and forums, suggests that the longer the wait the more amazing the orgasm. My limited experience doesn’t bear this out. Once or twice after a ten-plus day wait, the orgasm was not very good at all. It was ok, but no fireworks. Other times, only a day after an orgasm, it was a sexual fourth-of-July display of fireworks accompanied by a large ejaculation.

One of the rules of orgasms that I have always subscribed to is that the longer the wait, the more semen I produce. I’ve believed that I store it up and then when I finally get the chance, it will all flow out. Again from my reading, a lot of males seem to think this way. Yet, my experience doesn’t bear this out.

Before I was locked up, I didn’t really keep close track of my sexual responses. A fair percentage of the time I produced little or even no semen. That bothered me, and I chalked it off to advancing age. Occasionally, I produced a splendid flow. Part of the problem, I thought, was that my PC muscle was weak. So I began Kegel exercises. That didn’t really change anything. I was stumped.

In the back of my mind I had the nagging thought that the quality of my orgasm and the production of semen are related. I had read (and experienced) that if serious sexual teasing took place an hour before the final act, that semen production would be maximized. In my BDSM days, if I were playing with a top who liked to do cock and ball play and also enjoyed long play sessions, when I finally got to come (which didn’t always happen, of course) I would have very big orgasms and produce an amazing (for me) amount of semen. Those are some of my most memorable orgasms.

Since an important part of enforced chastity is to keep the male’s interest in sex very high, thus achieving maximum frustration at being locked up, what works best? I’m sure this varies with each male, but it seems clear that in many cases, including mine, locking up with no teasing allows interest in sex to diminish. It doesn’t go away, but it does go down.

But is the required “stimulation” just genital play? I would like to think so, but I know it isn’t. For example, in my “wild” days, I would occasionally run across a really hot video. It would arouse me physically and, I think, have a similar effect as teasing in terms of keeping my interest up. Similarly, Mrs. Lion’s anal play does get me more interested in activity around my penis even if she doesn’t touch it when she is doing the anal activity.

What the visual or non-genital activity doesn’t do is “charge” my semen and orgasm batteries. A ton of anal play followed by a hand job will more often than not produce an average orgasm.  Sometimes I get a “big one”, but it isn’t a sure thing. However, if I get cock and ball torture (CBT) and teasing but no orgasm for a fairly long time — at least thirty minutes — I seem to shift into the big orgasm, large ejaculation mode.

I don’t want to generalize too much, but I have heard others say the same thing. Does this mean that Mrs. Lion has to plan on an evening of teasing every time she wants to give me an orgasm? Absolutely not. I wouldn’t mind, but that is selfish and unrealistic. I think she already knows this anyway. I don’t think she knows what a big difference that extra activity makes.

In the bad old days when I would “scooch” and get a hand job, more often than not Mrs. Lion would just start masturbating me until I came. I rarely produced more than a few drops of semen. Now it is rare that there isn’t a fairly good sized ejaculation each time I orgasm. We’ve proven that the amount of semen is not increased by longer waits, but instead by my level of arousal. Just tying me up for a half hour ups the volume substantially.

I think that both keyholders and caged males, me especially, had the mistaken notion that simply being denied is enough to guarantee amazing orgasms when finally provided. In the beginning it was. But as time goes by, this changes and how the release is provided becomes more important than the wait. Is this true for you too?