Since my shoulder has been hurting so much, my interest in teasing and orgasm only appears in painless periods. Tylenol, when it works for me, brings up my interest. Those little white pills are a lot cheaper than Viagra and work better for me right now.
I have to come to terms with sex taking a way-back seat to the mundane needs of daily living. Like most guys, my interest in sex can pop up at almost any time; appropriate or not. Not now. Not for me. It’s odd that other kinds of pain, like Icy Hot on my balls or Velcro on my penis make me harder. That Icy Hot burn is considerably more intense than the rotator cuff pain. Yet, one makes me hard as a rock, the other drives any thoughts of sex from my mind.
I met a guy who had a terrible, degenerative disease that kept him in constant pain. He discovered that extreme masochism would help him “forget” the pain that was helping end his life. I won’t go into his activities. Some were impossible for me to watch. The thing is that he found a sort of relief.
This isn’t such a crazy idea. Pain doctors often deal with chronic pain with a Tens-like device. Electrodes are placed distance from the source of pain. Painful electrical impulses are sent to the electrodes. Since the body seems to be incapable of feeling two sources of pain at once, the patient’s brain is distracted from the chronic pain in favor of the milder stimulation from the electrodes.
There’s a lesson in this. Stimulation applied to more than one area in play situations is partly wasted. It is more effective to use the Icy Hot on the balls and when that wears off, move to another form of play. After all, you don’t want to distract your victim when he is focusing on the pain you worked so hard to inflict.
This is true of punishment as well. One thing at a time there too. Multiple punishments, one after the other, not only extends the time of suffering, but also assures you are sending a strong message. I believe that’s why so many disciplining wives follow a spanking with corner time. We haven’t tried that yet, so I can’t report of its effectiveness on me.
For the foreseeable future, sex for me will have to be timed between recovery pain and opioid drugs. Tylenol and Vicodin are my new drugs of choice.
