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In: Anal play, CBT, Spanking

It seems counterintuitive that on a male chastity blog, so much attention is paid to my rear end. Since we practice domestic discipline, my bottom is spanked fairly regularly. Mrs. Lion has also committed to regular anal play as well. This makes sense. Male chastity is about regulating my orgasms. Mrs. Lion limits them to when she thinks I should get release. Anal activity and spanking are unregulated and occur more frequently.

We spent years working out the best placement of my bottom for spanking. Over the knee never worked for Mrs. Lion. Other placements, like on the bed, didn’t afford her the easy access she needed. We finally discovered our spanking bench. It’s at just the right height, and my legs dangle down so that my entire rear is fully exposed for her attention.

Before moving to our current home, we had a sling that she put me in. The sling kept my bottom high in the air. My legs were spread so that she had excellent anal access. The height was adjusted to be perfect for her. Even though we had this setup, Mrs. Lion usually preferred the bed with me on my knees.

She feels that this arrangement isn’t ideal anymore. We have no place to hang the sling. I suggested that she could also use the spanking bench for anal activities. The only difference in my position would be with my legs apart, riding it. This might give her good access. The bench is lower than the sling. Fortunately, Mrs. Lion’s office is right next to where we use the spanking bench. She can roll her desk chair into the room and comfortably sit while she tortures me.

Maybe the spanking bench could do triple duty as a CBT handjob platform. If I lie on my back with my legs dangling off the end, Mrs. Lion could sit in her desk chair and deal with me in comfort. We have straps to hold me down. My hands and feet could easily be attached to the legs of the bench. Who knew it would turn out to be such an excellent multitasker.

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Things are getting more interesting and almost certainly more uncomfortable for me. Mrs. Lion plans on resuming anal activity on a regular basis (“Two Problems to Solve“) and said she would find a way to use restraints to fasten me, spread-eagle, to the bed.

When I’m attached to the bed on my back, it is much easier to apply IcyHot to my balls. I can’t squirm or try to get up and wash it off. I just have to stay on the bed and wait for the burning to stop. Mrs. Lion loves to create a red racing stripe down my balls by applying a wide coating of the hot stuff along the seam of my balls. The same position is also useful for putting those tiny clothespins on the head of my cock. All I can do is complain. I can’t take them off.

We had a sling set up in our old house. It was the ideal way to position me for anal activity. Even though it was set up full time, Mrs. Lion didn’t put me in it more than a couple of times a year. Almost all of our anal play was on the bed. We have a yoga pillow that could support me if staying on my knees proves too difficult. So the bed is certainly a good option for resuming ass stuffing.

I was as much of a barrier to anal play as Mrs. Lion. Most of the time, when she got the lube and a toy, I made an excuse to get out of it. Anal activity is one of those things that are hot to think about and uncomfortable to do. The only way it will work is for my lioness to disregard excuses and dive in. She does that for spanking. This is no different.

I wonder if the spanking bench would be a good platform for anal activity. I could be strapped in the same position as I am for a spanking. That makes my bottom very accessible. If Mrs. Lion sat in her desk chair, she would be at a perfect height to access my ass. If that works, it will solve two problems: The first is that I’m already trained to mount the bench when told. The second is that she can strap me down and avoid any difficulty when things get painful.

Anal play and IcyHot are very similar to spanking because my active cooperation shouldn’t be expected. Yes, I cooperate by getting in position and consenting to the activities. Once they start, my cooperation is no longer needed or expected. Mrs. Lion knows that I won’t like the stretch of my asshole or the pain on my cock and balls. She also knows that it turns me to think about those activities. It’s just like spanking.

Once we begin a BDSM activity, only a safeword should stop it. It’s easy to forget that in the heat of the moment. I know what I am getting into. She knows that I will not have fun while she does those things to me. She also knows that after the pain is gone, I’m turned on thinking about what happened to me.

In a slightly different way, this applies to sex. Once Mrs. Lion starts to edge me, she shouldn’t quit just because I start getting soft or tell her that I’m done. In the past, when she decides to press (jerk?) on, I almost always get hard again and reach the edge. In one-way sex, it’s very exciting to know that I don’t decide when it’s done. Mrs. Lion knows that in terms of stopping before I can ejaculate. I think it’s the same thing when I start losing interest. It’s not my choice. Mrs. Lion is in control.

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Tuesday night was clothespin night. Mrs. Lion used the wooden clothespins with stair-tread tape on the clamping end. They are very intense. Mrs. Lion found the spots on my balls that are most sensitive. I winced as she put each one on. It was equally uncomfortable when she removed them. It’s been a while since she’s used those particular toys.

I receive email ads from a couple of BDSM suppliers. I’ve taken advantage of sales and bought toys that looked like they might be fun in the past. Invariably, they never got used. This is true of the leather restraints I got after Mrs. Lion approved the purchase. It may be that she prefers the familiar. She also seems to have a strong preference for CBT.

In a recent post, she mentioned that she doesn’t particularly like anal play. I was surprised because we have done a lot of it. We have a large collection of penetration toys (dildos and butt plugs). When she was interested in sex, she loved anal. I guess that inserting things in me isn’t as much fun. I’m sorry I didn’t learn about her dislike of anal play earlier. I don’t want to put her through things she doesn’t want to do.

I think she likes bondage but doesn’t want to do the work setting up and strapping me down. I think that she is a creature of habit. If she strapped me to the bed every time we were to play, maybe the habit and familiarity with the process would make it routine. I don’t know.

At one point, I figured that she might like some activities if she got a sense of accomplishment out of her progress. I suggested that she “train” me to take larger and larger objects anally. It was my idea that she would get a sense of accomplishment. I would if the roles were reversed. She didn’t. On the other hand, she’s mentioned that she has pride in the quality of spankings she delivers. She said she likes to see my butt get red and my yelps louder.

When sex is only one way, it’s difficult to work out activities that provide pleasure for both partners. Mrs. Lion is wonderful about making sure that she takes good care of me.

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I realize that there are a lot of definition shifts when it comes to domestic discipline. Almost everyone who wants to be disciplined uses words that can easily confuse. The first that I think of is “strict.” When used in the context of discipline and daily life, it evokes very negative images.

Living under strict discipline is the polar opposite of freedom. However, strict in the domestic discipline context is something else. I don’t think many dominant partners want to deal with strictly enforcing every aspect of another person’s life. There would be no time left for her own. Yet her husband wants her to be strict with him.

The first bit of information the disciplinary partner needs is that you and you alone get to decide what you enforce if you are in charge. Your partner may want you to micromanage his life, but you certainly don’t have to. Micromanagement falls under the category of BDSM and is restricted to limited scenes under controlled conditions. No one can live 24/7 that way.

Strict domestic discipline is the creation and consistent enforcement of rules. Some rules can be very specific. I have two: Set up the coffee pot for the next morning, and close the shower door. Failing to do either gets me spanked 100-percent of the time. Other rules can be more subjective. For example, I’m not to annoy Mrs. Lion or act like a know-it-all. If I do, she should spank me. Most of the time, I’m not. That’s because enforcing subjective rules is difficult for most wives.

Our domestic discipline can easily fade from view with only two rules being strictly enforced. One technique that Mrs. Lion uses is the “just because” spanking. This is a full disciplinary spanking administered if too much time has gone by since my last punishment. She decides when to administer the “just because” spanking. It can be as little as a few days or as long as three weeks.

The “just because” spankings give her a chance to remember any subjective offenses I may have committed and punish them. Even if there were no remembered offenses, the spanking renews our commitment to a disciplinary relationship.

There is another reason for regular, strict spankings. I want them. Most people who are under domestic discipline find the idea of spanking arousing. I hate it when it’s happening, but I get very turned on thinking about being spanked. This odd combination works in Mrs. Lion’s favor.

My sexual arousal thinking about being spanked assures that I will willingly mount the spanking bench for punishment. Because I hate the painful spanking that I get provides the punishment needed to help teach me to obey. The sexual attraction is strong enough to cause me to “forget” how much Mrs. Lion’s paddles hurt.

Speaking of pain, a strict spanking is supposed to hurt and keep hurting after it’s done. When Mrs. Lion is in full punishment mode, it will hurt for me to sit down days after she spanked me. After the pain fades, I can get hard thinking about that spanking.

It has to seem odd that there is any educational value in an activity that can make me hard. It isn’t. From what I’ve learned, my reaction to spanking is common in the world of domestic discipline. It’s very useful since the sexual component assures my willingness to accept real punishment. The extremely painful spanking overcomes any immediate sexual feelings and focuses me on the consequence of my offense.

Mrs. Lion wrote that I’m due for a “just because” spanking. It’s been ten days since my last spanking. I agree that I’m due; not that I get a vote.