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Mrs. Lion has to work too hard to get me to the edge. She needs help.

I am more than a little surprised at how easily Mrs. Lion has been able to perform my anal training. I expected considerable discomfort as butt plugs are moved in and out of my rear. I feel a little discomfort when she first starts; very little, actually. Then, as she moves a plug in and out I am able to handle it with very little discomfort. Part of this, I think, is due to the use of our new, advanced lube. We are using Eros, which is designed explicitly for fisting and other anal activity. It is thick and very slippery. It is also slightly anesthetic which makes initial entry easier. It’s worth the rather high cost.

I am very proud of Mrs. Lion. She has been absolutely consistent over the last few days. I forgot on Thursday, but she remembered and told me to get ready after she finished her shower. I assumed the position on my knees, ass facing the edge of the bed.

She used one of our silicone plugs. It isn’t the largest we have, but it is about one and three-quarter inches in diameter at the widest point. This is significant for me. In the past, when we played with dildos, the largest I could comfortably accept after considerable time was 2 inches in diameter. Mrs. Lion spotted a vibrating plug online that is 2 inches in diameter, and I ordered it for her.

I have to admit that neither of us were ever enthusiastic about anal play. However, as Mrs. Lion said some time ago, it is a very intimate activity and one we can do daily if we want without involving my penis. Since I’ve had trouble lately getting to the edge of orgasm, substituting anal play is a nice change of pace. Neither of us ever thought she would be able to fist me. However, in the past Mrs. Lion has expressed a wish to be able to do this. I’m pretty sure she will succeed this time. It may not happen this week or even the next, but if she is consistent she will succeed.

This is how the Autoblow ai works. The position, stroke length, and speed are computer controlled.

I have no idea why I need so much stimulation to get to the edge of orgasm. I physically seem fine and get erections with no problem. But for some unknown reason, my stimulation level has increased a lot. Mrs. Lion has used the Magic Wand vibrator to help her. I don’t think she is very happy about that. She wants to be able to use her hands or mouth alone. The Magic Wand is so powerful that no matter how close it brings me, if she stops and uses her hand, it doesn’t work very well.

I know there are devices that work with a reciprocating motion that simulate oral or hand masturbation. One of them could be used for warm up. There are two devices that look like they meet this requirement: the most popular is the Autoblow, which is a cylindrical device with a silicone sleeve inside and a motor driven constrictor that masturbates the penis. They have a device they call their AI version that apparently varies the sort of stimulation it gives. This costs $229 on sale. The other one is much newer but not that different. It’s called the F1. This device apparently also features the ability to be software controlled and has several motors to provide stimulation similar to the Autoblow. It costs about $149 on sale. Both devices get great reviews.

f1 masturbator
The newest and most high tech masturbator. It is $149. It’s new and not established in the market.I decided to purchase this machine. I am sure we will review it. (Click image to go to the vendor’s site)

Male masturbating devices have been very rare in the past. Years ago, the only reliable one was the Venus 2000. This device made by the same people who make the very expensive Sybian female masturbator, costs almost $1000. I tested it and reviewed it years ago. It works, but it is large, complex, and fairly difficult to use. These new, more-compact devices aside from being cheaper, look much easier to use and have a good chance of being effective.

I think at this point it may be worth the investment to provide some help for poor Mrs. Lion’s tired hand. It’s a way to provide electronic foreplay. Mrs. Lion approved my purchase of the device of my choice. I selected the F1 for two reasons: 1. It is less expensive by more than $50 right now (it’s on sale). 2. It’s battery-powered. The Autoblow requires an AC socket. Our experience with plug-in devices is less than thrilling. The power cord always seems to be either too short, or just gets in the way.

Anyway, with her usual flexibility, Mrs. Lion has worked hard to help me past this difficult time. Maybe with some electronic help she, she won’t have to work so hard.

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Last night I dug around in a plastic bin and came up with a few more butt plugs. They might not have been what I was looking for but I’ll take what I can get. One looked a little too big to use right now. The other one was a good size. I didn’t compare them to the last one I used.

Lion didn’t have any trouble taking it. I’m sure it wasn’t much bigger if it was bigger at all. If anything, it was just longer. Sometimes that’s a problem all by itself. Even when I moved it quicker, he only made a few murmurs of discomfort. Part of it is the lube, I think. It’s really good stuff (Eros, click name to go to Amazon to buy it). A little goes a long way. As a matter of fact, when I dip the butt plug into it, only a thin coating sticks and that seems to be enough.

[Lion — I did a bunch of fisting research and this lube is highly recommended by experts. So far, I can say that anal has never been more comfortable than it is now. Also, pegging is generally done with dildos. Mrs. Lion is using butt plugs. They are much more difficult to handle going in and out due to their shape.]

I only pegged him for a short time. I don’t know why. I guess the first time was longer because I had to keep moving up in size. Maybe I wasn’t really prepared to do it longer. I suppose if he’d had more difficulty accepting it, I would have taken my time. I’ll have to be ready tonight.

Lion has requested I use my fingers tonight. There’s definitely a difference. I can add fingers or wiggle them. I’m sure the sensation changes. I can also feel when he relaxes. Last night he asked if he was staying open when I removed the butt plug. Between the lighting and his position, I couldn’t really tell. I should be able to tell tonight.

I’m still not sure I’m looking to fist him. I’ll be happy if he can just be more comfortable taking things up his ass. The size of the object doesn’t really matter.

Aside from anal training, we didn’t do anything else. He was snoozing a lot. He seems to be sleeping a little better at night so I’m sure the afternoon/evening snoozes will lessen. But there’s nothing wrong with a snooze here and there. Everyone needs to recharge their batteries.

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Yesterday, Lion went in for a steroid shot into his shoulder joint. He’s bummed he won’t be eligible for the Olympics. We waited about two hours for him to have the five minute procedure done. We snoozed a bit and Lion was about to leave when they came to get him. I just hope it helps his pain so he can get the full benefit of physical therapy.
The area of the hospital we were in was the Interventional Pain Clinic. Of course, Lion saw that as having multiple meanings. He said I do interventional pain therapy too. When he misbehaves, I intervene with pain. This is true. Not at all what the hospital had in mind, but true nonetheless.
I was supposed to soap Lion’s mouth last night for forgetting to set the coffee pot up. We ate dinner early and expected to play earlier than we have been. When I came out of the shower he was snoozing. Knowing how hard it’s been for him to sleep lately, I decided snoozing was needed more than mouth soaping.
Once he woke up, he requested we do anal training. I took out the new butt plugs and the lube that got the best reviews for anal training. The butt plugs are sort of like papa bear, mama bear and baby bear, except that papa bear was the one that was just right. Baby bear was hardly noticeable. Mama bear was slightly more of a challenge. Papa bear didn’t pose much of a challenge until I started moving it in and out faster.
Tonight I guess I’ll start with papa bear and move on to the NJoy butt plug. It’s bigger and has a more pronounced neck. That’s why it stays in so well. And, I assume, why it will cause Lion more discomfort. I’ll have to make sure I start out slow to get him used to it and then I can go a little faster. Of course, there’s no rush with this. There’s no reason he absolutely has to get used to the NJoy tonight. It can take as long as it takes.
When we were done with his anal fun, I started to masturbate him. It went well at first. He was excited by the attention. Then he started to fizzle again. Eventually I moved on to his best friend, the Magic Wand. Even with that he seemed to fizzle until I decided to keep going even though he said he was done.
He wasn’t done. He got hard again and I think his orgasm snuck up on him. He seemed surprised by it. He might have been more surprised by the fact that I allowed him to have an orgasm. Why not? I like it when he has an orgasm. It’s a reward for me too. I get the cream filling and, even if there’s not a lot of cream filling, I get the satisfaction of getting him all the way. We both win.
Tonight he’ll get his mouth soaped for not setting up the coffee. He’s already reminded me about punishment day. We’ll see if he can get himself into any more trouble.

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Mrs. Lion had the energy to plug my ass with this toy on Sunday night. It felt good and made me feel more connected to my lioness.

We had a really great weekend. Mrs. Lion did a lot of work that resulted in me having a new credenza in my home office that will allow us to put away a lot of stuff still in boxes. She also worked in the living room and we can actually get in now and start unpacking there too. I’m very happy she did all that work and sorry I couldn’t do too much to help.

Despite all this nesting activity, Mrs. Lion found time to insert the Njoy butt plug both Saturday and Sunday nights. I had a little discomfort on the way in and out. That’s to be expected. It was fine once in and actually felt good. The Njoy butt plug is solid metal, stainless steel. It’s very heavy and the weight feels good nestling inside me. Mrs. Lion was too tired to begin the anal training.

Based on the discomfort I feel when I have to accept the conical shape of the plug and then it’s removal, I’m starting to understand why using plugs instead of dildos is the best way to do anal training. Mrs. Lion said that she likes using her fingers. She says it feels very intimate. I agree. I don’t get hard when she does that, but I imagine I will if she wants to work on that with me.

She also wants to peg me. I think that’s a great idea too. So far, she has not expressed any interest in doing it with a strap-on. I’m hoping at some point she will. Nevertheless, if she uses her hands to peg me the sensation is the same for me. I’m glad that she enjoys these anal activities. She’s absolutely right about the intimate feelings this play produces. I feel it as well. It’s a connection that may be similar to what a woman feels when a man is inside her.

This may be a little difficult to understand. In my case, once I get past the pain of her fingers or an object entering me, I feel a sense of closeness, of being possessed. She is inside my body and possesses me in a way no one else can. It isn’t the pain of entry and removal so much. It’s the fact that we are connected. It doesn’t matter that this connection is via a very unusual place. It’s just that she is possessing me and I am helping her do it.

I’m not entirely sure how all these emotional/physical/sexual sensations arrange themselves. But I do know that I get turned on thinking of being penetrated. A lot of people blur the amazing depth of these feelings by simply labeling them as “submissive”. Yes, letting someone insert things into my ass is definitely what the Internet folks call submissive. But that’s almost trivializing a much deeper, emotional experience. Skipping the reference to submission, anal activity is deeply sexual.

The big word here is “accept”. As a male I usually expect my mate to accept my penis inside her. It’s very intimate, of course. I am penetrating her body and she is willingly accepting me. This is my genetic programming; my role if you will. Now, the tables have turned. While my sexual equipment doesn’t permit accepting her into me the way I can enter her, my willing acceptance of her hand, toy, etc. into my anus is certainly an analog to her accepting my penis in her vagina. Actually, she has enjoyed accepting my penis in her anus as well. That’s not only analogous to my experience, it’s identical. Clearly there is a sexual and intimate connection with our rear ends.

I think that tangling these experiences with BDSM trivializes the significance of these activities. Women understand the significance of allowing another person into their bodies. That’s why rape is such a serious offense. It’s the ultimate violation of the most intimate activity a woman can enjoy. As a male, allowing my mate inside me is just as intimate and emotionally important.

I’ve always focused on the purely physical/BDSM submissive qualities of anal play. There’s no reason why I shouldn’t. Mrs. Lion brought out a much more significant dimension to these activities. She identified the sense of intimacy she got when penetrating me. Once she mentioned that, I realized that I feel the same thing. Yes it’s painful at times. The pain doesn’t mean that the activity is wrong. It’s just my body adjusting to something unexpected. It’s no different than learning a sport. There will be considerable pain as your body adjusts to the new activities.

Once I get past the pain and adjustments, I feel a deep sense of sexual intimacy. I feel a new, deeper connection to my mate. She feels it too. I knew a woman years ago who always made fisting her partner the first thing she did with any man she wanted to have a physical relationship with. I never understood why she wanted to take that considerable time and effort to get her entire hand up his ass. I know it wasn’t a desire to dominate him. He may have felt that way, but I know she didn’t. She didn’t label why she wanted to do this. She just said that it was very important to her.

I think Mrs. Lion and I are starting to understand why people learn to love anal play. In the beginning it may be an expression of dominance and submission. There’s no question that it’s uncomfortable at first. However, some people make this stuff a regular part of their sexual connection. I finally understand why.

Mrs. Lion was exhausted on Sunday night. Nevertheless, she inserted the Njoy butt plug. I understood that this was as much sexual activity as she could manage. Under different circumstances I might have felt a little cheated. I had to endure the discomfort of anal training without the payoff of getting my penis stimulated.

I didn’t feel that way on Sunday night. I felt warm and loved with that plug nestled inside me. Would I have enjoyed being masturbated? Of course. Did I feel badly that my penis did not even get touched by Mrs. Lion? To my surprise, I didn’t. I was happy that she put something inside me.

Some people will say that’s me acting like a female. We associate uncomplaining acceptance of insertion a female attribute. After all, we males are the penetrators. I think that’s a very narrow perspective. I don’t consider myself submissive. I recognize that welcoming Mrs. Lion inside me is analogous to what a woman does. So what! It’s what I do too. It’s a connection between us. It doesn’t require either of us to be sexually aroused. It could very well result in sexual activity, but it doesn’t have to.

I’m hers. Happily, I have the ability to penetrate and be penetrated. I’m learning to enjoy being the catcher instead of the pitcher. Eventually, it won’t hurt. I’ll learn to accept penetration comfortably. Then we can both enjoy this amazing intimacy without any discomfort on my part. I look forward to that.

My role has changed. Mrs. Lion doesn’t enjoy being penetrated. She does enjoy penetrating me. My penis gets stimulated and I get to ejaculate without penetration. This has been the case for several years. I’ve learned to accept this change and even enjoy it. Now that Mrs. Lion is making a renewed effort at our anal connection, we can restore an important piece of sexual intimacy by reversing our sexual roles. That doesn’t turn her into a male or me into a female. It just rearranges the way we use our equipment. The result is a combination of sexual pleasure for me and a strong sense of intimacy for both of us. I am excited by the prospect of learning to comfortably accept Mrs. Lion penetrating me. I know it will happen and it will add to both of our pleasure.