Chastity games (Page 3)

Yes, like the apple falling on Newton’s head, mindless staring at our blog bonked me with inspiration. There it was, staring me in the face. The ultimate! Before I get to the details, my idea of any useful chastity game is that it can be played by one or more people. One, of course, must be the recipient of the outcome. Or in this case the, no-outcome.

Anyway, I was looking at the “Lion’s Sex Life” widget. This feature provides a timer on how long it’s been since my last ejaculation. More recently, I added the total orgasms for the year as well as my average wait. It’s sort of the lines on the cell wall prisoners use to mark their time in captivity. I noticed that so far this year, I’ve had five orgasms. Then inspiration struck!

Guys who have the chastity kink want to lose control of when they get to come, no matter how badly they want it. Games have been invented with dice, random number generators, and other ways to arrive at the wait until the next orgasm. The more the odds are stacked against the male, the more arousing the game. Caged males are connoisseurs of irony. The more denial, the more arousing the game.

Determining wait times using chance, like rolling dice works up to a point. The problem is that this sort of game isn’t ironic. But what if we insert a gravity-like force that gives irony the biggest erection it ever had? Do I have your attention? Here’s my idea. The rules are unbelievably simple. Starting on January first, or any day for that matter, count ejaculations. You can have one if you wait at least the same number of days as the number of orgasms since you started play. Play can extend for more than a year. So, when you come the first time, you only have to wait a single day for your next chance.

I’ve had five orgasms so far this year. If I am playing the game, the minimum time I have to wait for my next chance is five days. See where this is going? Last year I came 57 times (I think). That means my minimum wait would have been 57 days in December. Of course the irony is that the more time you get to come, the longer you have to wait for your next chance. Adding a day each time may not feel very important at first, but when your wait grows to more than 30 days, you might regret coming so often.

The one person version works exactly as described. Adding a keyholder also offers more ironic opportunities. For example, she can decide that the price for an orgasm is adding two or more days to your wait. She can also add days just because she feels like it. You might be thinking that this isn’t different from a typical enforced chastity relationship. But it is. You see, the added days are permanent. If my minimum is five right now and Mrs. Lion decides I deserve another day added, even without an orgasm, every single wait from then on is a day longer.

The stakes seem low in the beginning, but it won’t take long before that Ultimate Irony clamps her jaws around your defenseless weenie and you realize that by relieving that burning need, you will make it even worse the next time. Be honest, isn’t this exactly what you wanted when you masturbated thinking about enforced chastity? Your keyholder gets to decide when to reset the counter. I think the minimum time for a round to last is a year.

That little number in the “Lion’s Sex Life” widget starts to loom much larger. Every time that orgasm count goes up, I know I will have a longer wait, not just until my next orgasm, but for a year or more. That orgasm had better been worth it.

Is enforced chastity the gateway drug for a life of escalating kink? One blogger recently suggested that once a couple adopts enforced chastity, they invariably escalate their kinky practices. They’re hooked! Remember when we saw TV commercials that told us just one puff of marijuana would lead to a life of heroin addiction, prostitution, and poverty? We were led to believe that just trying an apparently harmless drug created a lifetime of horrible consequences.

The dominant partner, Sweetie at Plains Chastity is convinced that enforced chastity has the same effect on people as marijuana. It all begins with buying an inexpensive chastity device. That little toy is apparently the atomic bomb of perverted sexual practices. Lock it on and all hell breaks loose.

Look at us. We started with a cheap Chinese chastity device. It wasn’t long before we had to buy a custom Jail Bird. Oh no! The gates of hell were opening. It didn’t’ take long before Mrs. Lion was inserting dildos and butt plugs into my ass. Then we got into the hard stuff. That’s right, spanking, a female led relationship, and (maybe children should go into another room now) domestic discipline! We’re corrupted into irretrievable degeneracy.  All because of a little device that locks over my little penis.

There’s still another circle of hell left: cuckoldry. That’s right, some souls who lock that device on their partner’s penis, end up performing consensual adultery. Aren’t you glad you sent the kids away?

The Institute for the Study of Accelerating Perversion reports that this process is repeated endlessly around the world. They say that human sexual organs are part of a sensitive, delicate system. If used as the Church prescribes, these systems function smoothly with no risk of the horrors of perversion. Stray off the path and there is hell to pay.

Joe and Mary (names changed to protect the sinners) were a happy, missionary-position couple living on the West Coast of the United States. They had their weekly sex session every Saturday night after the kids were asleep. She would pull up her nightgown and he would expose his penis through the fly on his pajama bottoms. With a minimum of contact, he penetrated her. A minute later it was done. Nightclothes were back in place and they slept the sound sleep of the virtuous.

One sad day, Joe decided to explore the devil’s tool: the Internet. He researched how people eliminated that messy Saturday night nightgown-lifting activity. Since he was interested in what he could do, he typed in “male chastity.” That was the beginning of the end. He was directed to a web site that had a wholesome-sounding name, The Male Chastity Journal.

Initially he was shocked by what he read. Then he noticed that his penis was standing up the same way it did on Saturday night. “Oh my!” he thought. “What’s this?” He kept reading and began to feel uncomfortable. He decided to give his poor penis some space. So, he opened his pants and let it out of his underwear. Before long he was comforting it with his hand. You can guess what happened a few seconds later. It was His first step down the sexual path to hell.

The rest of this sad story is predictable. That first masturbation experience led first to a daily habit, then twice, and finally three times every day. Mary was enjoying the extra sleep she was getting now that Joe no longer wanted to raise her nightgown. But she worried that perhaps he had found a new nightgown.

Joe had been reading about enforced male chastity and the disease grew in his soul. He ordered a chastity device and asked Mary how she would feel about locking him up. After he explained what he wanted locked and showed her his genitals, when she regained consciousness she considered his recent lack of interest in her nightgown. She reasoned that if he had indeed found another woman, locking him up in the device could kill two birds with one stone. First that penis thing she was shown would be unavailable without her being present. Second, she would be able to trade his obedience for sex.

So, she agreed to his request. That was the beginning. Now that Joe had a lot of time without access to his penis, he turned his attention to the Internet with a new fervor. Since he was no longer able to relieve his sexual tension without his wife’s help, his fantasies grew stronger and stronger. Meanwhile, Mary was enjoying her new control of when her nightgown came off. She also liked Joe’s new interest in her welfare and happiness.

So, when Joe told her that he was reading about wives taking control of their relationships (FLR), she was ready to agree to try it. As they say, the rest his history. Joe and Mary descended into the hell of domestic discipline. Their corruption was nearly complete. Joe and Mary spent more and more of their modest income on implements of torture: paddles, straps, whips, riding crops, butt plugs and worst of all, dildos. Now Mary was pulling down Joe’s pajama bottoms and inserting increasingly large dildos into his anus. Worst of all, he liked it.

They were hooked! Now they began talking about having another man raise Mary’s nightgown while Joe watched. He got hard when they discussed it. They both watched the Internet, looking for new ways to degrade themselves. Eventually, they found a young, handsome man who not only raised Mary’s nightgown; he took it off. Joe watched while he masturbated. The horror!

To this day they remain hooked. They walk down the street hand in hand. They laugh frequently. Often, Joe’s bottom is red and sore. He smiles every time he sits down and feels a twinge of pain. They’ve met other people with similar interests. They go to parties where people run around naked and do unspeakable things. They are surely in hell.

So you see, what started as a rather mild sexual game changed two good people into sex maniacs. Be careful about watching the Internet. This could happen to you.

Yesterday, we got a very interesting comment from Jane, a new reader. She publishes an interesting Tumblr blog. She and husband practice enforced chastity. Part of her comment mentioned a practice that she uses to give him a “chance” to have sex. In her words:

“…we have a ‘ten second rule’ for him playing with me to see if I get switched on into doing more. But also I’m starting to love the fact I really can just roll over and say ‘not tonight dear’ and leave him horny and frustrated, and he LIKES that (in moderation, but still, it’s turned a negative into a positive,which is fab!)”

A ten-second rule; what an interesting idea. Ten seconds isn’t very long to get a woman interested, but it is better than no chance at all. I’m not sure this would work for us, though. Mrs. Lion’s libido hasn’t returned. However, only a short “try” might not be too annoying and might serve as a wake-up call to her sleeping libido. Mrs. Lion and I notwithstanding, I think this is a brilliant idea. In one sense it is a chastity “game”. He has a chance, albeit a small one, to have his way. On off nights, she gets an opportunity to exercise her power and roll over. It’s a sexual win-win.

This is another example of a sexual communication that brings a couple closer. It’s also a very positive use of the sexual surrender we caged males offer. Underlying the chastity theme, this practice is a great example of non-verbal communication. Permission is given to try to sexually stimulate the keyholder. If she doesn’t find this short opportunity sufficiently stimulating, sexual activity is over for the night. He has a choice. He can try turning her on or not. He knows that he has to get her interested enough to continue or he goes unsatisfied.

In a very real sense this is a mating dance that many animal species perform. The male has to strut his stuff and hope he impresses a female enough to have her allow him to mount her. Without trying to read too much into this, it’s clear that in most species the female has absolute veto rights. I suppose that’s true of humans too. However, in most cases we males use guilt and pouting as well as other negative behavior to “convince” our females to get us off.

I think that this is due to the fact that over the thousands of years of “civilization” we humans have lost the sexual “sense” that serves less complicated critters so well. Enforced chastity restores this primitive and effective power balance. The cages we wear make “No.” a very easy and practical answer for our partners. More importantly, we have to accept this response with grace. In fact, we become conditioned to actually enjoy this rejection. If anything, it stimulates us to try harder the next time.

Ten seconds is a very short time. Sexual desire is a very good teacher. Need is the best motivator in the world.