Category: Communication

We watched another football game last night so we didn’t play. It was late and I figured Lion was tired from making a yummy batch of stew. It made the house smell so good. Ironically, when I came out of the shower, Lion was watching Shark Tank and there was a product that helps couples with sex.

The concept is that there are two buttons. If you’d like sex, you push your button. If your partner would like sex, he or she pushes the other button. If both buttons are pushed it turns green and you know you’re both good to go. I laughed. For one thing, Lion is usually always ready to go. For another, why can’t you just ask your partner? Lion thought it was a good idea although he figured I’d never push it.

It’s true. I’d never push it for me, but I would push it to let Lion know I was willing to give him attention. I’m still not sure a button is required. I could just say “ya wanna?” and Lion would say “Hell yes!” and off we’d go.

The scenario the inventors gave was that the husband was working on his laptop in bed because he assumed the wife was too tired from her day, and the wife assumed it would take too much effort to drag the husband off his laptop, so no nookie tonight. If they had this magical button, they’d know from the green light that they had the green light for nookie.

It was also billed as a way to avoid being denied. In other words, if I push my button and Lion doesn’t (fat chance!) then I don’t have to stick my neck out to initiate, only to have him say no. Maybe this would help Lion’s inability to initiate. On the other hand, he doesn’t need it because he’s not supposed to initiate. Or so he says. I wouldn’t mind if he rolled over to snuggle with me sometimes. And, yes, I’d see that as a prelude to sex.

Anyway, the point is that I assumed it was too late last night and that he was tired. If we had the buttons, I would have known if he was looking for action. As well as we think we communicate, we still drop the ball a lot. Not unlike those football players we were watching last night.

rear view of lion

This is Mrs. Lion’s favorite view of me. It’s one of the few preferences she’s ever expressed. Oddly, she never asks me to assume this position so she can enjoy the view. She likes seeing my balls hanging down. I don’t like this image.

It’s difficult to get Mrs. Lion to express her preferences. She has never been very comfortable telling me what she likes and doesn’t like. Over the years, I have learned a few things about her preferences. She has a favorite view of me. The image on the right is her expressed favorite way to see me. She really enjoys it when I have to bend over and pick something up. To put it mildly, I don’t think I look good at all this way. Even though this is her preference, she steadfastly refuses to ask me to bend over to show her my best side.

erect Lion penis

While Mrs. Lion clearly prefers my rear, if she is restricted to my cock and balls, she strongly prefers me hard. She likes my balls hanging low, but when I am erect, that doesn’t happen.

If you’ve been reading my posts for some time, you know my favorite views of me include my cock. I’ve published scores of them. Mostly I am flaccid and frequently locked in a chastity device. I’ve never been very fond of featuring my balls. I suspect Mrs. Lion prefers them front and center in any picture I publish.

A year or so ago I asked a question on Twitter about whether women prefer seeing soft or hard penises. About 75% preferred soft. When I asked Mrs. Lion for her preference, she said that she wasn’t fond of seeing a flaccid cock. She liked seeing erections.

Having said that, she reminded me that her favorite view is the one shown above, on the right. Like most guys, I also prefer seeing my erection. However, since this is a blog about male chastity, erections seem out of place. Also, I believe that my soft penis is more R-rated, while my erection is clearly rated X. Obviously, when I wear a chastity device, my penis will be completely flaccid.

I’m a little surprised she strongly prefers seeing a man’s erection as opposed to the far-less-threatening softy. To be completely clear, she said that her preference for erections is general, not just restricted to me. With my recent medical abstinence, she is careful not to make me hard. In fact, she is avoiding close contact in general. I’ve been thinking about that. I believe we’ve inadvertently made a connection between getting me hard and additional activity that either gets me to the edge or gets me off. If Mrs. Lion prefers me to have an erection, despite my strong wish that once I get one, she takes it to some logical conclusion, there’s absolutely no reason she can’t make me hard and do just enough to keep me that way without any need to go further.

I believe that as lioness 3.0 gets more comfortable, she may make me hard just because she likes to see me that way. She may also ask me to assume the bent-over rear-view position just because she likes to see it. Either or both of these activities will signal that she is less focused on what I want and more focused on what she likes.

naked lion outdoors

I’ve been naked at home for nearly our entire 17 years. I’m enjoying the summer day on our deck. Mrs. Lion has said that she’s quite fond of this view.

In fairness, she’s also said that she likes my butt. Any time she gets a clear view of my naked rump, she said that she enjoys it. The image on the right is one we published about a week ago. She commented that she likes it. Unlike the post-spanking pictures, it shows all of me.

I am required to be naked at all times when others are not around. Much of the time I wear a T-shirt which is permitted. I do that to keep warm. However, 3.0 might be asking me to remove the T-shirt to give her an unobstructed view. That’s absolutely fine with me.

She hasn’t expressed any feelings about how I look bent over the edge of the bed for spanking. I imagine she is more focused on producing the color she wants on my bottom than enjoying the landscape.

Having said all this, I have to point out that Mrs. Lion is not nearly as visual as I am. To date, she hasn’t made any requests for specific, or even general pictures to go with her posts. I insert them when I can. All of the pictures with this post illustrate Mrs. Lion’s preferences. Aside from the image with my erection, I’m not fond of the rear views.

I’m hoping that 3.0 will be more vocal with what she likes and doesn’t like. I would love it if she took the pictures of me to illustrate what she likes. I wonder if she begins to focus on what she likes to see, as opposed to what she thinks I would like her to enjoy, perhaps her libido would begin emerging. I think a good part of the issue is her focus on what she thinks I want as opposed to what works for her. Perhaps one way to get there is for her to make a conscious effort to express these preferences as often as possible. I may end up posing for some interesting portraits.

Maybe we can begin working on this in a similar way to how we built our disciplinary habits. If she’d like to accept it, I’d suggest that she take at least one picture of me in a way she likes every day. These won’t necessarily be for publication, but they will provide her with a way to focus on what visually pleases her. To be completely clear, I’m not suggesting that every day she comes up with something unique. I’m just not that interesting. Just that she refines her visual interest by experimenting with the camera.

I’m leaving work today at noonish so I can take Lion to a doctor appointment and then we’ll have a four day weekend. In his email this morning, Lion said he thinks he needs to be spanked. He hasn’t done anything wrong. It’s just been a few days since I’ve whomped his butt. I told him we have four days to take care of his spanking needs. He replied with, “Four days of spanking? Oh my!”

Now, you’ll notice I didn’t say four days of spanking. That’s what Lion heard. Just like last weekend I said I wanted him to take a sleeping pill so he’d be rested for the weekend and he heard we’d be playing during the day on Saturday. Two different things. I think I’ll chalk it up to wishful thinking.

Of course, there was a possibility that we’d play during the day on Saturday. And, I suppose, there’s the possibility that I could spank him four days in a row. It’s just an example of our minds going in completely opposite directions. Lion is more focused on sex. I’m more focused on what needs to get done around the house or on finding some me time.

I do understand that Lion is basically trapped in the house unless I’m around to drive him somewhere. He’s starved for human contact. I’d love to be in his shoes. Even if I did make it out of the house I’d rather not have to deal with people. Again, we’re opposite. The key is to balance his need for contact and my need for solitude. It’s not easy. Lion feels lonely when I’m doing my own thing. I feel guilty that I’m trying to carve out some alone time.

With four days together, I’m sure we can figure out how to get things done around the house, have lots of Lion attention and some lioness solitude. It can be done.

I didn’t think Lion would be particularly horny last night since he had an orgasm Sunday night. However, I didn’t think he’d snooze most of the evening away. Normally when he snoozes, he seems almost belligerent when I don’t want to snuggle later on. He says there’s no reason to not snuggle or play just because he took a nap. But he also says if we wait too late he can’t perform.

I guess this is one of those times when our communication breaks down. Why would he be upset with me for not wanting to snuggle if it’s late when it was his “fault” for snoozing? I’m not the one who snoozed. I didn’t delay anything. Can’t I have a “sweet spot” too? Maybe I was all set to snuggle but was met with a soft snoring noise. Maybe my snuggle time has passed.

Obviously I don’t really have a time frame for snuggling. We can do it any time. I just have a problem when he snoozes and then makes me feel like I’m wrong for not rushing over to snuggle when, ordinarily, he’d tell me it was too late to do anything. I suppose this is toddler behavior too. And, for that matter, punishable because it’s annoying. But I am reluctant to add a punishment before we’ve discussed things. Consider this the discussion.

Tonight is a busy television night for us. Not that we can’t pause for the purpose of snuggling and/or playing. I don’t have any idea how horny Lion is, but snuggling works in any case. And I suppose it doesn’t matter too much how horny he is if I want to do something to him anyway.

By the way, I found it odd the other night that Lion found having his balls tied up distracting. Usually that gets his motor running. I’m not quite sure what that means in terms of his liking bondage or not, but I thought it was strange. It certainly doesn’t mean he’ll feel that way every time I tie his balls up. It’s not like I’m refusing to do it anymore. It’s just weird. Maybe he’s just more into getting his butt swatted nowadays.

[Lion — I was surprised that having my balls tied was distracting. I’m not sure that this is a trend or change. It could just be the way my body was reacting at the time. I’m not annoyed with Mrs. Lion when I wake up and she feels it’s too late to snuggle. I’m grumpy because I fell asleep at all. It’s not like I plan to take a nap. It seems to just come over me. One minute I’ll be watching TV and chatting, the next I find myself waking up half hour or an hour later. This feels like a piece of time disappeared. I’m happy that Mrs. Lion will take note of behavior that annoys her. I’m sure spankings will be more frequent now that 3.0 is here]