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In: Lion's Journal, Sex

Male sexuality doesn’t seem very mysterious, but in fact it is pretty complex. Many males complain that after being caged for a while, sex stops feeling as good. Some want to be freed because they mourn the loss of that great feeling. There are two facts about male sexuality that may help explain what is going on and how to remain caged and still have amazing orgasms.

  1. Being locked up “trains” the penis to avoid arousal. Most males report that after a while (days to weeks) in a cage without frequent stimulation, that when freed and given sexual release that the sex doesn’t feel as good. This is most likely due to a physical and mental lowering of sexual expectations. Prior to being caged, most of us knew that if we were teased or if we initiated sex (alone or with a partner), the eventual outcome would be ejaculation. Now, in our new lifestyle, while caged we learn that an erection doesn’t point to release, and if we are freed for a while, we just might end up teased and locked up again without ejaculating.
    Of course we knew going in that this is how forced chastity works. But there is a big difference between knowing and internalizing the harsh reality of sexual frustration. We learn to deal with this in two ways: We teach ourselves to internalize the frustration and use it to feed our submissive / chastity fantasies. Our bodies don’t allow serious arousal until they are sure that the result will probably be ejaculation. As a result, if we are uncaged and our partner stimulates us directly to orgasm, we will probably ejaculate without a problem, but not enjoy the orgasm as much as we did before chastity.
  2. The male arousal curve flattens more than before caging. Females get aroused in a smooth buildup over time. They slowly get more and more excited until they orgasm. Males, on the other hand, get aroused enough to get hard, then very slowly get more aroused until just before ejaculation when over a few seconds arousal hits its peak and ejaculation occurs. Pre-lockup, since we had an expectation of ejaculating when stimulated, while not very steep, our arousal curve did grow as we were stimulated. By the time we hit the point of no return, we were ready.
    Now we have learned that arousal probably doesn’t mean orgasm, so our bodies don’t allow our arousal to grow much until we are close to the point of no return. Basically, we get hard, wait, and when ejaculation is inevitable, over two or three seconds peak, squirt, and are done. We do have a real orgasm but it just doesn’t feel as good.

Coupled with having to wait and wait for a chance to squirt, it’s a big letdown to discover when we can let it go it just doesn’t feel as good. Contrary to common sense, the longer we have to wait, the higher the probability that it won’t be that much fun. Is there anything we can do? There is, but it has its price. One thing is to ask our keyholders to take extra time arousing us when we are uncaged. Maybe play with us for a while and then stop and do something else. Then a bit later start again. That will give our bodies a chance to get used to being aroused.

Of course, all that arousal may just end with us on the very edge of orgasm and being locked back up. That’s the risk. I, for one, like that idea. Psychologically, we are forced to believe we will ejaculate whenever we are aroused by our partner. If we don’t, then when we do get to come, it won’t feel as good. In short, if we want to be sure the occasional orgasm feels as good as the kind we used to have, we need to convince ourselves that every time we are sexually stimulated it will result in a nice orgasm. If we don’t convince ourselves of that, we risk the let down of an unsatisfying orgasm.

For most of us, caged males and keyholders alike, this is unexpected. It makes the delicious torture of orgasm denial that much more poignant. If we want the rare chance we get to come to feel really good, we have to help our keyholder maximize our frustration when she doesn’t let us come. In a way I like this idea. The more I think about it, the more I am enjoying the irony. Being a caged lion turns out to require me to learn new things about old pleasures.

 

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In: Lion's Journal, Male Chastity, Sex

For some time, even before being caged, I wake up at 3 AM or so to pee. As in the past, I frequently find myself aroused. Only now my erection is the same size as my flaccid penis. Its thicker and bulges against the bars. The head tries to push its way out. Some people say it hurts when they try to get hard. It doesn’t hurt me at all. It actually feels good. I haven’t tried very hard, but once my little chubby presses against its cage, nothing I can do with my hand will arouse me further. Orgasm in my cage is apparently impossible. As frustrated as I get, I don’t really want to try to come on my own. After all, I asked my lioness to lock me up. It would make no sense to turn around and try to defeat my cage. What does happen is a little feeling of futility. I know that the good sensation from my erection isn’t going to get any better and I won’t be able to actually come. So, I get up and sit down to pee, return to bed and go back to sleep.

I have always liked a cute butt. Lots of women wear tight jeans which does a great job showing off some truly nice asses. I’ve never been a blatant girl watcher, but i have always enjoyed a casual glance or two. This has been changing since I have been caged. I find myself starting to look and then I catch myself. What’s the point? This is very odd since I have never actually tried to catch any of the cute females I have seen. I guess that subconsciously I had liked the possibility that if I wanted to try, I might have a chance. I never consciously thought about sex with them. I only want my lioness. This subtle change surprises me. It’s like some basic part of my male constitution is restrained by that little cage. I am changed by simply locking my penis up. Who’d have guessed.

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In: Chastity hardware, Lion's Journal
jail bird chastity cage.
Jail Bird chastity cage. This isn’t the cage I am wearing. To see my penis in my cage click here.

After six long weeks, my Mature Metal Jail Bird cage has arrived. This is a custom made cage (see measuring instructions here). The fit is perfect! It is so comfortable that I am not aware it is locked on my penis.

If you are serious about forced chastity, while expensive, a custom cage is a necessity. No matter how good, the off-the-shelf cages won’t be comfortable enough for long term wear. The most problematic are the plastic cages. While inexpensive, the wide base ring (around the cock and balls) has a lot of friction with the skin. This friction makes movement painful and forces many users to constantly lubricate the area under the ring. The stainless steel ring on the Jail Bird lets my skin move under it without compromising security. Even though the inexpensive Chinese cage was comfortable, I did get some pinching and discomfort. Mrs. Lion found some red marks it caused.

If you get one of these custom cages and there are fit issues, Mature Metal will adjust it for a nominal fee to cover shipping.  If you measure carefully you can get it right on the first try. The most important measurement is the cock and ball ring. Mature Metal sells an inexpensive set of “fitting” rings. Even if you are wearing a plastic cage, you should get these rings. Don’t just try them on, wear the one you think fits best 24/7 for at least a week. You really need to wear it that long to learn if you have the right fit. To start, find one you can get your balls through and then squeeze your penis through next. If you can get one finger up to the first knuckle under the ring, it may be the right fit. Wear it for a week. Most people try to get the smallest possible ring. That is a mistake. You want the smallest ring you can comfortably spend a week wearing. It’s worth taking the time to get this right.

Next in importance is the cage length. As it says in our instructions, measure more than once. Find the shortest you are (measuring from under your cock). Then, subtract 1/4 inch from that and this is what you should order. Cage diameter is easy to get. Make sure you are completely soft an lay your penis on a ruler. You can see your correct size. You want the diameter slightly narrower than your measurement so that the cage hugs you comfortably.

Now that my penis is in its permanent home, it feels pretty good. The Chinese cage had some room for growth if i got excited. This one doesn’t. An attempted erection doesn’t hurt, but it also just makes me a bit chubbier in my cage. If you have questions, please leave a comment and you may get the answer you need.

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In: Femdom, Lion's Journal, Sex

A lot has been written about male milking. If the term is new to you, it means to get a man to produce semen without sexual orgasm. Erection isn’t even needed. This is accomplished by massaging the prostate. This practice is very useful for long term forced chastity. It permits clearing out old semen without ever removing the cage. Some people believe that regular release of semen is not necessary. In some men that may be true, but others can develop thickening of the residual semen over time that could require medical intervention.

The testicles are not involved in this at all. Sperm, produced in the balls, is reabsorbed by the body if not used. It’s nature’s way to assure a fresh supply of swimmers. Sperm is only a tiny percentage of male ejaculate. The majority of the fluid is produced in the prostate gland. It’s generally believed that regular emptying of the prostate is a good idea. Normally, the prostate is emptied by ejaculation. However, our keyholders may not want us to have that pleasure. That’s where milking comes in.

Male milking is accomplished by massaging the prostate. You do this by inserting a finger or other device into the anus and then press through the wall of the colon to massage the prostate directly. You can’t really do this yourself with a finger; at least I can’t, but your keyholder can. She just puts a finger up your ass and then feels along the way on the wall facing your belly button until she comes across a walnut-sized, fairly hard body. That’s the prostate. Pressing and releasing as well as rubbing it, should eventually get it to release semen which will drip out of the penis. The male will feel like he has to pee. It isn’t urine. He has to relax and let the fluid come out. Some keyholders collect the semen on a plate and serve it to the male as a nice treat.

The best milking position is with the male on his hands and knees, ass in the air. Over the years, Mrs. lion and I tried this several times. On a few occasions I could feel the need to pee, but nothing came out. At that point I wasn’t sure if male milking wasn’t more than a myth. Then I saw some videos that showed male milking is very real. In the videos men milked themselves with various dildos and probes. It can be done! Milking takes practice. It can take up to an hour the first time. A vibrating butt plug is one way to get started. We are all different, so experimentation is needed to find what works for you.

The point of all this is to empty the prostate without sexual satisfaction. Once fully milked, a male will not be able to orgasm even if uncaged and masturbating. He will have to recharge. It’s a very interesting sensation being milked. Even though it didn’t work the last time we tried, I got a very helpless feeling. I knew that I was going to be milked of my semen and all I would get is the uncomfortable feeling of needing to pee; no orgasm, not even an erection. From the perspective of the keyholder, milking is a very dominant activity that demonstrates true sexual ownership of the male.

Please leave comments with your milking experiences. It would be great to get both male and keyholder perspectives.