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Lion gets his stress relief by grumbling and being spanked and pegged. I get mine by playing mindless video games

A long time ago when I got stressed I’d say I needed to punch a tree. My rationale was that hitting a person would land me in a whole heap of trouble and punching a tree was less likely to get me arrested. I also found stress relief in batting cages. When every ball has your ex’s face on it, it’s fairly easy to knock them out of the park! Lion always tells me that spanking is a good way to get out frustrations. I don’t agree. If I punch a tree I get hurt. If I hit a baseball only the ball gets hurt. If I swat him, he gets hurt. Taking out my frustrations on him wouldn’t work because I’d be too worried about hurting him. That would actually add to my stress.

He says grumbling relieves his stress. Being spanked and pegged are also stress relievers for him. So what does it for me? I thought about it on the way home from work. It’s exactly the thing I was doing when he told me I wasn’t paying any attention to him. I like to play mindless computer games. Candy Crush, Angry Birds, etc. Yes, they are frustrating. Why can’t you just die you stupid pig and let me advance to the next level? But they also let my mind decompress. If the pig doesn’t die, I’ll get him the next time. No big deal. Now, I’ll admit to being addicted to these games, so I can understand if Lion doesn’t know the difference between my just-vegetating play and my I-really-need-this-so-I-don’t-kill-someone play.

I tend to grumble a bit too when I’m stressed. It doesn’t make me feel any better so I don’t know why I bother, but that dryer needs to know I’m really pissed off that it keeps beeping at me. I heard you the first three times! I think it may be another passive-aggressive way to let Lion know I’m in over my head without actually saying it. We’re working on our communication skills. I’ll add that one to my list.

The point is that one person’s stress relief is different from another person’s. His grumbling may make me feel guilty, but it’s not what he’s intending. My computer games may make Lion feel ignored, but it’s not what I’m intending. Now we know.

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Lion is horny and wild for now. He said I can trust him not to do something stupid. I trust him.

Last night I freed Lion from his cage. He needed manscaping and he has a doctor’s appointment today. I was debating whether to give him an orgasm, figuring that the temptation of being frustrated for five days and now being free would be too much. He said he would rather wait.

After spanking him I edged him a few times. Then I asked him how long he wanted to wait for release. He said he didn’t know, but he’d like to make it longer than last time. He wants to see what it feels like. So I decided to trust my wild Lion, uncaged and loose in the world.

I’m not sure if we’re talking marathon or not. He has said I could make him wait for the rest of his life if I wanted to. I don’t. I don’t really see the purpose of making him wait at all. But, as I’ve said in the past, I try to make him happy. So we’ll wait. I think today is day six. I’m shooting for the weekend, but I’m also waiting for some signal from him. Since it’s the first time I’m really making him wait I have no idea what to do. I know it’s my decision. But he must have some idea of how long. Does he want to go until he’s really, really needs to orgasm? Does he want to go for one day more than he went last time? Does he want to go for the marathon? Will it be a point of pride if he makes it two weeks? A month?

I was just thinking that it may be possible that I lose interest the longer we wait. I’m wondering if I feel less in control because I don’t know how long we’re waiting. Those thoughts just popped into my head as I’m writing this. I haven’t really even processed them yet. It’s not unusual for me to fluctuate between being comfortable with being in charge and being completely lost. At some point I’ll swing back and things will be clearer.

For now, my Lion is wild and I trust him.

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I think I had a ruined orgasm last night.

So Lion has been grumpy lately because I’m making him wait again. It’s true. He gets to about the fourth day and then he starts to whine. And because I haven’t actually touched him since I wrestled him into the Chinese cage, he told me that if I don’t even touch him he will lose interest. Ha! That certainly doesn’t seem to be the case. I reminded him that it was his own fault. If he hadn’t asked to be caged he would be free to do whatever he wanted. Grumble, grumble. Then he said maybe the whole thing had been a mistake. He does have a knack for making me feel guilty.

But two things he said made a lot of sense to me and started me thinking that maybe a lot of what applies to him also applies to me. I think a big part of the reason I lost interest in sex was because he couldn’t initiate. I’m not blaming it all on him. I could have explained myself better at the time. I guess I didn’t really understand it myself. In a post the other day, he said he was unable to get hard, in part, because I don’t talk to him or spank him beforehand to get him turned on. I completely understand that. When he does initiate, he sort of dives in and goes for gold without any preliminaries.

Some weeks ago I gave Lion a homework assignment. The question: If I said I wanted you to make love to me, what would you do? The only hint I gave him was that it didn’t have to start with dinner or flowers. I meant the actual act. There was no right or wrong answer. I was just looking to see how his idea compared with my idea. It turns out we weren’t too far off. The thing is, when I think of sex, that’s what I’m looking for. I think what he’s looking for is playtime ending in orgasm, or a denied orgasm now that he’s caged. Two different goals.

And what I realized last night as he was fingering me, is that it may be possible for me to have a ruined orgasm and continue to have them. It was weird. There was the build-up and the start and then something happened that just stopped it. Then another build-up, another start and another stop. And so on. It’s never happened before. I don’t know why it happened last night. He didn’t seem to do anything differently. I don’t know what I could have told him to do that would have taken it all the way. Maybe it was because he hasn’t touched me in a few days. Maybe it was stress. I don’t know. It did feel good but not as good as it usually does. Probably better than his ruined orgasms.

We’ll just have to keep experimenting and see if it happens again. I’m up for it!

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Lion’s old cage is really difficult to put on. Maybe I should let him run wild until his Jail Bird comes back. No, not a good idea.

Lion sent back his Jail Bird to be re-sized. He is wearing the Chinese cage again. No big deal, right? At least he is still caged. Well, I forgot how much I hate that Chinese cage. I pinch him every time I try to put it on. It’s difficult to get all the parts lined up. Once he’s in it I don’t want to take it off because I know what a nightmare it is to put back on.

And that was actually my first thought as we were struggling with it last night. Maybe he’ll stay in it till the Jail Bird comes back. That’s about a week and a half. No orgasm. No teasing. No hygiene time. He could do it. But do I want him to? The more I think about it, the more I think I’d rather have a wild Lion than to have to wrestle with this horrible cage. But do I want him to be wild? Not so much.

Sure I think he would be fine if he was wild for such a short time. He was wild for days when he had doctor’s appointments. It could be a mini vacation for him. Time off for good behavior. Of course, I couldn’t deny him for long without expecting him to take matters into his own hands. And it would set a dangerous precedent. Things got difficult so we gave up. He wants the cage on. I want it on too, but am I willing to fight with it? Maybe there’s a compromise somewhere in between wild and wrestling match. A few days on, a few days off?

Lion has no say in the matter. He’s caged. I hid the key. He can’t get out. He doesn’t even have an emergency key this time. (I’ll have to fix that oversight. It’s important to me that he can get out if he absolutely needs to.) If I decide to make him stay in the cage until the Jail Bird gets back, then that’s exactly what he’ll do. He won’t like it, but he has no choice.

Ironically I think he would like it less if he were wild. Oh, he’d love peeing standing up and being able to touch his toy even if he weren’t doing it to pleasure himself, but in the back of his mind he’d know I didn’t have that power over him at that moment. I think that would bother him more than anything.

So we’ll play it by ear and see how it goes. There’s no official rule book and even if there was, I’m the referee.