If Lion has behaved himself, by the time this post publishes he will have finished his twenty-four hour diaper punishment. Ironically, I think it was the add-on punishment of no sex that bothered him more. Maybe not. He really does hate diapers, especially wet ones.

The good news for Lion is that his weenie will no longer be stinky and, as such, eligible for fondling and other assorted activities. He reported that he was very horny last night. I’m hoping the timeout only made him hornier. I really love a horny Lion. Is that why I edge him almost every night? No, but it is one of the benefits. There’s just something about my weenie when he’s standing so tall and proud. Yum!

The other day was my first foray into alternate punishment. As far as I can remember I’ve never used diapers as a punishment. I certainly never used sex, or lack thereof, either. I just couldn’t see spanking Lion for the third day in a row on an already-sore butt. I’m sure he would have been fine, but it seemed a bit excessive to me. I know he doesn’t like diapers. Up till now I’ve used them to make him feel uncomfortable, to show him who’s boss. He’d wear them under whatever parameters I set, and then he’d be done. It was, like a butt plug, a set it and forget it form of play.

Because we were close to the weekend, I knew he could wear the diaper without anyone knowing about it. He wouldn’t be squirming through a meeting in a wet diaper. If there was a smell, no one else would notice it. I bet he could have worn them to work. I didn’t notice any smell. He even announced he’d be working from home Monday if I wanted him to continue with the diapers. I know he said twenty-four hours is not sufficient time for punishment, but I like to take baby steps. Next time he may wear them longer. Who knows?

The no-sex aspect was an afterthought. In the past, if he was mid-diaper-wearing session, he’s washed off and I’ve played with him before he goes back into the diaper. Of course, in the past the diaper wasn’t a punishment. And I started thinking about how warm and stinky it would get in a wet diaper and decided I wanted no part of it. Hence, no sex. I don’t usually make him wear a diaper to bed either because he gets too hot at night. I did this time. There were all sorts of changes with this punishment.

Did you ever notice that 2.0 shows up just after Lion accuses me of not wanting to play anymore? I think she wants to make him eat his words and then she fades into the background again. She really needs to stick around longer.

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This will be Lion’s underwear. He will be wearing it at least from Friday afternoon through Saturday afternoon. Mrs. Lion may make him wear them longer.
At 8:32pm last night Mrs. Lion asked me if I forgot something. Oh crap! I forgot to remind her it was punishment day. Every Monday and Thursday are punishment days. I have until 8:30 pm to remind her. It looked like another spanking, the third in a row this week. She decided not to spank me again. Instead, I had to wear a diaper from the time I got home from work on Friday until the same time on Saturday. 24 hours in a diaper.

I’m allowed to change it after sitting in the wet diaper at least an hour. At least I won’t be sitting in a wet diaper all the time. For the record, I don’t enjoy sitting in a wet diaper. I’m not very fond with wearing a diaper for more than a few  hours. I really dislike wearing a wet one.

Anyway, we exchange emails all day when we have a free minute. I let Mrs. Lion know I will be in a diaper when I get home. Her answer was interesting:

“Spanking or diaper – your butt pays for your mistakes. ;-)”

There it is. At least part of every punishment is going to involve my butt. Fair enough. Spanking is the premier butt punishment. A diaper is a close second. Anal penetration is the last frontier for this, I suppose.

I know that Mrs. Lion is rethinking her punishment options. I’ve suggested that a punishment could have at least two stages: the butt stage and then something else. I described some of these options in my post the other day. Wearing a diaper is a very good punishment “dessert” too. It extends the punishment well beyond the spanking.

Something else is brand new: Mrs. Lion has tied sex in with her punishment. In her post yesterday, she wrote:

“Oh, and an unintended consequence of the punishment is that I don’t want to play with a stinky weenie so he won’t get any action until he’s out of the diaper and showered on Saturday afternoon/evening. Fair warning, Lion. We’ll snuggle, but no weenie rubs.”

That was her cute way of saying that part of the punishment is no sexual contact until at least 24 hours have passed. Other times I was in a diaper and she wanted to do something sexual, I would excuse myself and wash off. She never had to deal with a stinky weenie. Last night at dinner, I asked her about this new twist. She said that she had been thinking about taking sex away as part of a punishment for a while. She finally decided to give it a try.

In the past, I suggested that other disciplining wives included withholding sexual activity as part of their punishments. Mrs. Lion told me that wasn’t her style; one thing had nothing to do with the other. Apparently, now it does. I have to admit that it stings. I was very horny last night and even though I had no expectation of an orgasm, some edging would have been very nice. I have to be less forgetful and avoid punishment if I want any sexual stimulation.

We went out to dinner last night. Fortunately, I was in a dry diaper. Mrs. Lion told me that it didn’t show under my jeans. I managed to wait until we got home to pee. I’m not sure if anyone could see the extra bulge of my wet diaper. I’m glad I could avoid finding out. That doesn’t mean I won’t get a chance to learn today. It’s early yet.

For me, at least, the idea of wearing the diaper is arousing in the same way thinking about being spanked turns me on. The excitement about wearing a diaper (humiliation can turn me on) wears off after a relatively short time. I think that Mrs. Lion is absolutely right about making me wear it without a break. It doesn’t make sense to me to remove it to go out or to sleep.

To be precise, I am wearing “briefs”. They are built like a standard underwear brief, just thicker. I can pull them down and back up just like standard underwear. We also have true diapers with tape closures. These look like baby diapers and need to be changed. I just can’t pull them down and pull on another one. So far, we haven’t used the classic diaper.

I’m about to get myself into trouble. I don’t think 24 hours is enough time to make it unpleasant enough to make a strong point. An entire weekend would assure that I have to wear one when we go out. If Mrs. Lion wants me to use one during the week, if they don’t show under jeans, she could make me wear one to work as well as when we are home. That is new, scary territory.

Anyway, that’s Mrs. Lion’s decision. Right now I will be in a diaper all afternoon today and most of tomorrow. Life is nothing, if not interesting, around the lions’ den.

How ironic is it that Lion is getting punished for forgetting it was punishment day? All day I waited for him to tell me. I even hinted at one point that I hoped he’d make it through the day without a punishable offense. By rights I should have spanked him again. Three days in a row would have really sent a message. But I figured I’d give him a break. Diapers it is.

The only guidelines I gave him initially was that he wear diapers for twenty-four hours. I few minutes later he asked if he could change them. Duh! Of course. I don’t want him wearing the same stinky diaper for twenty-four hours. And he doesn’t have to poop in them. That would be way too messy. However, Lion may have found a loophole. I was not clear as to when he can change the diaper. He thinks he can change it as soon as he’s wet. That’s no fun! What good is it if he’s always in a dry diaper?

Nope. A dry diaper will not do. So I’m changing the parameters a bit. I don’t think I’ll be as mean as I’ve been in the past. He doesn’t always have to have a wet diaper. For this punishment, he has to sit in a wet diaper for at least an hour before he can change it. Assuming he doesn’t have to pee again right away, he’ll be in a dry diaper for a good portion of the time.

Oh, and an unintended consequence of the punishment is that I don’t want to play with a stinky weenie so he won’t get any action until he’s out of the diaper and showered on Saturday afternoon/evening. Fair warning, Lion. We’ll snuggle, but no weenie rubs. On the plus side, for Lion at least, he won’t get spanked either. But he still needs to be careful. Any infractions during the diaper period will result in increased diaper time or increased wet diaper time. He won’t get away with anything.

I’ve been studying how other bloggers write about punishment. Every one that I believe is real, always have two phases, at least, to a punishment. If you consider the spanking as the main course, then the followup is desert.

This idea makes very good sense. Since a spanking that is going to last more than a few swats, requires a warm up, there is a strong resemblance to a “play” (BDSM) spanking. For me, the desert would provide unmistakable evidence that I am being punished.

Without exception, domestic discipline punishments, including spanking, are all childhood-based punishment. Spanking, corner standing, writing assignments, mouth washing, privilege loss, and early bedtime are all classic punishments for children.

I think there is a good reason why adults are punished as children: it fits the maternal model of female authority where the male is submitting. It’s not a reach for both partners. Many wives jokingly refer to their husbands as their oldest children. I suspect that this reference has more than a grain of truth. In the case of FLR, especially with domestic discipline, the maternal role is actual.

Childish punishments resonate with men who were disciplined this way as children. Men like me who had never experienced this as kids, have to learn what the other group already knows. In my case, I have been spanked during BDSM scenes. Many were quite severe, though none reached the point that Lioness 2.0 has been giving me.

Quiz shows always have at least two parts to each game. “Family Feud,” for example has the regular play and then the “Quick Money” game. Audiences clearly prefer this format. Punishment is no different. The spanking is the main game. It provides direct stimulation that reflects the disciplining wife’s unhappiness with her husband’s behavior. Even if she isn’t angry at the time, this activity provides direct evidence of her displeasure. She was hurt by his disobedience, for example, so now he will get to feel the way he made her feel. Many women include a “scold” to underline what upset her.

The second phase, dessert if you will, serves the purpose of forcing the disciplined husband to seriously consider his misdeed. It’s the quiet phase of the punishment. Many women use “corner time” as this second phase. Her husband is made to stand with his nose tightly pressed into the corner. Often, he is required to have his hands behind his back or at his side. The average sentence for corner time seems to be fifteen to thirty minutes. The room is quiet and he is forced to feel the effects of his spanking and hopefully meditate on his sins.

Writing assignments requires him to neatly write a phrase over and over. This phrase almost always is a promise to not repeat the bad behavior; for example, “I won’t interrupt Mrs. Lion.” or “I will eat more neatly.” You get the idea. Writing that 100 or 200 times takes a while and if he is sitting on a hard chair, will intensify the memory of the spanking.

Mouth soaping is more than sticking a bar of soap in his mouth. Usually, the bar of soap is thoroughly wet with warm water and then the disciplining wife soaps her hand and then washes the inside of his mouth with the soap. It generally takes repeating adding soap to her hands so she can thoroughly coat his tongue, gums front and back, and all of his mouth. The soap should be fairly soft at this point. Then at least a third-to-a-half of the bar goes into his mouth and he has to hold it there. Many women soap first, then have him stand in the corner for 15 to 30 minutes with the bar in his mouth.

These “quiet” dessert activities clearly indicate that this isn’t play. It’s punishment. The purpose, of course, is to assure he understands that repeating the misbehavior is something to avoid at all costs. A spanking alone is effective in many cases, but if you add dessert, the lesson is strongly reinforced.