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I was wrong. Lion was horny yesterday. So I thought I’d take advantage of it and start his daily orgasm workout. I think by Wednesday he may be sorry he suggested this experiment. When we were all snuggled in for sleep, I realized Lion was still wild. He’s not at all frustrated anymore so it’s not a big deal. Plus, with daily orgasms, it will be easy for me to have access if I don’t have to unlock him.

Yesterday afternoon, Lion asked if I could try out the tawse on him. I didn’t hit him hard. It wasn’t punishment. He just wanted to see how it felt. He says it stings, but he can’t feel the individual tails. He’s pretty sure it will become my go-to punishment implement. I’m not. I guess with practice I might get better with it, but anything flexible has a tendency to wander off and not land where I want it to. That’s why I don’t use floggers or straps very often. I tend to use them more when we play since I’m not hitting as hard.

We have some rubber paddles/straps that are somewhat flexible, but they hit where they’re aimed. One is about 3 inches wide so it covers a nice area. The other is about an inch wide. That’s the one I need to find so I can concentrate the swats in one particular area. I’m not looking to bruise Lion necessarily. I just want to hit right on the areas he’ll be sitting on so he feels it for longer.

Tonight we’ll continue with Lion’s daily orgasm workout. I haven’t heard the Lion weather report yet. I was very surprised that he was horny yesterday. He may surprise me again today.

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tawse
English, extra-heavy, three-tailed tawse. This is considered the ultimate spanking strap.

A package arrived yesterday. It was something I ordered over a month ago. I will regret buying it. But you know me, I just can’t resist. It’s a genuine, three-tailed English tawse, extra-heavy weight. I found this on a British professional dominatrix website (If you order one, please mention you saw it here). This is an exceedingly rare implement. The only other one I found on the web was a lightweight, poorly made version.  This is the real deal.

The tawse dates back to Scottish schools. The Lochgelly style is considered the classic. That’s what I stupidly ordered. This one is made of stiff leather. It has some flex, but not a lot; just enough to build up momentum at the tip. It’s 24-inch length is long enough to make a painful blow easy, but short enough for control in confined spaces. It divides into three tails past the handle. Each tail stings like a separate strap.

I ordered this because strapping is commonly considered the next step up from the paddle for spanking. In domestic discipline, a strapping frequently follows the paddling. Blows from the strap leave painful marks that last for a day or two.

Mrs. Lion tried it on me yesterday. Even at low power it really stings. I felt the sting for an hour after the test flight. I am not looking forward to it being used to punish me.

I ordered it out of curiosity. I know that one disciplining wife uses a similar one with very good effect. She has a picture of hers on her “Beating Your Man Properly” page. Hers is lighter weight and shorter than Mrs. Lion’s. She strongly recommends the regular use of the tawse. It was this article that inspired me to arm Mrs. Lion with her own strap.

We already have a very heavy slapper made from three layers of thick leather. I’ve used it when I was a top. It delivers a very nice “thud” that my bottoms loved. It may be too heavy for Mrs. Lion to use effectively. It may also be something I enjoy more than I should. I think we have another strap that is light and in my experience, not too effective.

You must be wondering why I would help arm Mrs. Lion with implements that I know will hurt horribly. My reason isn’t deep-seated masochism. I do it as part of the evolution that has kept us going at our power exchange long after most people quit. The problem with many power exchanges is that they are initiated by the submissive partner who then either withdraws entirely, expecting his top to take it from there, or acts as the director of the relationship. Neither situation works well for the dominant partner.

In the beginning I provided a lot of input. I avoided describing scenarios, but I did provide ideas and hardware. Over the years, my input has diminished as Mrs. Lion finds her own way as my disciplining wife. I still provide implements that look interesting to me. She thinks I am silly to give her more ways to hurt me; but she welcomes them with a smile.

Since neither of us have any experience with physical punishment, Mrs. Lion started off flying blind. She has become the mistress of the spanking. Her paddlecraft is amazingly painful. Since more than one disciplinary wife writing blogs uses a strap as either a primary punishment tool, or something for more serious offenses, I wanted to make one available to my disciplinary wife.

Once Mrs. Lion uses the new tawse on me, two things will probably happen: First, she will discover it is easier to inflict a very painful swat than the paddle. Second, I will work very hard to avoid another session with it. That, of course, is the real objective. Since it is currently untested, we have no idea what, if any place it will have in my punishments. If she likes using the tawse, it could replace the paddle.

This is probably the last spanking tool I buy on my own. Mrs. Lion no longer needs my help finding ways to punish me. She has completely taken over and my input is no longer requested. She still has me play a part I don’t like. She now requires me to select the spanking implement to be used on me. If I pick one that isn’t strong enough for my offense, she will replace it with one better suited and punish me longer for trying to make things easier on myself.

I know that this is no longer play for me. I work as hard as I can to avoid punishment. I take Mrs. Lion’s rules very seriously; even the most trivial. I know that I’ve broken a few that she let slide. I’m happy she didn’t spank me. But I also know that next time she will. This is the first time in my life that there are painful consequences for breaking a rule. It’s no game or fantasy play. It’s absolutely real life for me.

 

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paddle collection
This is the current paddle collection hanging on the back of our bedroom door. We have more paddles that I will add to give him a better selection of implements I’ll use on his bottom.

When my mother was young, she and her siblings would be hit with switches for misbehaving. To add insult to injury, they had to go out and bring back their own switch to be hit with. If they thought they could get away with a lighter sentence by bringing back an inferior switch, they were sadly mistaken. My grandmother would then go get a better one and the punishment would be worse.

I was thinking about this last night in the shower. I have a shoe holder on the back of our bedroom door with an assortment of whomping implements. I’m going to make Lion select his own paddle for his punishments from now on. I don’t usually have a specific paddle in mind. Sometimes I pick a paddle I’ve forgotten about. Sometimes I do pick a lighter one knowing I will have to hit harder, but the paddle is the right length or width or whatever for my purposes. We have a few that have the rough stair tread paper on them. I generally rub the rough side across Lion’s butt before I begin, but I hit with the other side. Of course, I can always change my mind and hit with the rough side if necessary.

There is a decent selection of paddles in there right now, but I’ll look for more over the weekend. I know there are mean ones hiding in the spare bedroom. I want Lion to have a full range of paddles to contemplate. I think it’s important that he be the one making the choice. Or, at least, making his choice. However, if Lion brings me a paddle that is too light for the job, I’ll correct his selection and he’ll got more swats.

I’ll be interested to see how often his choice of paddles lines up with what I would have picked. Knowing the punishment will be worse for a misstep, I bet he’ll choose carefully.

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Today is the 20th day since my last orgasm. I’ve only had one other wait this long. Mrs. Lion indicated that my wait will continue at least to 25 days, probably 26 which is the first of March. That would make February a one-orgasm month. I think there was only one other one-orgasm month in over three years of enforced chastity.

To my surprise, my interest in getting off is extremely high. I figured that over time I would lose interest. However, every night Mrs. Lion unlocks me and edges me unmercifully. I seem to get hard nearly instantly and work as hard as I can to ejaculate. Mrs. Lion is too smart to let that happen. When she is done, she waits as my erection subsides and then locks me up again.

In addition to the edging we spend a good amount of time snuggling. I love that. My desire for this contact seems to have grown as the distance from my last orgasm increases. I didn’t notice this when my waits were shorter. Mrs. Lion seems to be having fun with my frustration. She teases me about being horny as well as a lot of touching even when in my cage. It’s difficult for me to tell if this is real pleasure or if she is behaving this way because she knows I like it so much. I know she loves it when I come. I wonder if she has found a different pleasure in frustrating me.

As my wait wears on, I find that I am generating precum way after the edging. I can pee and then more than fifteen minutes after the edging I find sticky drops at the end of the urethra. This is new too.

At this point I know that my preferences have much less weight in her decisions regarding when I can come. I like that. I also like the teasing. I don’t get any special pleasure out of this very long wait. At least I don’t think I do. Things are different. Maybe I am more submissive. I don’t want to argue with her decisions. I don’t beg for an orgasm and I don’t grumble much either.

I don’t want to sound like I want one or less orgasms a month. I don’t. But I am absolutely prepared to accept that schedule if it pleases Mrs. Lion. She likes to say she is unpredictable regarding when I come. She says she makes that decision while masturbating me. I know that in this case she wants to beat my old record of 21 days. I think that motivates her to not give in to her desire to make me squirt.

She may also be learning from this experience. Impromptu orgasms, while fun, may also take some of the purpose out of enforced chastity. She might enjoy setting a goal and then surpassing it. It’s a challenge for her to not give in to my enormous desire to ejaculate.

Maybe this new resolve is related to her ability to punish me. She’s been learning to spank severely. Each spanking has had more intensity, but relatively short duration. The intensity is significant. She knows each swat is very painful and it is her intention to make it hurt as much as she can. The duration is probably related to her resolve. How much can she hurt me before she can’t bring herself to continue? Knowing her, she will experiment by keeping the intensity and extending the number of swats as she learns to embrace domestic discipline.

She knows I withdraw for a while after being beaten. I think that is challenging for her as well. I believe my withdrawal will become less as I learn to accept the punishment. I also think she will learn to disregard it the same way she ignores my yelps when she hits me. I think she realizes that she needs to harden those feelings to be effective as a disciplining wife.

The same may be true with enforced chastity. She may be learning to enjoy my frustration and the changes in my behavior that long waits produce. Or, she may just be experimenting. As with punishment, it’s not for me to guess or suggest; just accept.