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In an effort to return fun to our power exchange, I ordered some rather humiliating panties in my size. I know that Mrs. Lion sometimes enjoys having me wear panties just because she knows it embarrasses me to wear them. It turns me on when she does things like this that are a bit humiliating. I can’t explain it; I’m just wired this way. The reason it’s fun for her is more complicated.

Mrs. Lion likes games. She enjoys catching me breaking the rules. I’m not talking about the more serious offenses like interrupting or upsetting her. She has trouble punishing me for things like that. However, she likes being able to catch me breaking less emotionally loaded rules like forgetting to make the coffee or not sending her an email. It amuses her to catch me breaking them. I know she doesn’t get aroused by spanking me, but she does enjoy seeing my reaction when I realize I will be paddled. She also likes reminding me that I want her to do this.

Panties fit in this category, too. She likes reminding me that I asked her to make me wear them. I look silly and they aren’t very comfortable to wear. If I’m wearing panties, I cannot pretend she isn’t in cntrol. That’s what I reall want. I like feeling her exercise control. Spanking me is another powerful expression of her control.

In a post the other day she wrote,

“Even Lion can’t explain why he wants to be punished. Well, spanked. What makes that appealing to him? Is it my power over him?  He could get that in less painful ways. Is it the pain? He swears he’s not a masochist. I know he likes the idea of being spanked. He just doesn’t like the actual spanking. Maybe it’s not the pain then.”

Interesting point. What less painful ways was Mrs. Lion thinking about? She never told me. I am certainly open to them in addition to the spanking. She’s absolutely right that it is her power over me. The panties are an effort I’ve made to encourage her to demonstrate that power.

The problem is that she got out of the habit of demonstrating her power. It’s extra work for her. I don’t think that’s the reason she’s basically stopped. I think she got out of the habit. Mrs. Lion knows that I need her to make liberal use of her power on a frequent basis. It doesn’t have to be painful, but it can be, and I’ll welcome it.

So far it’s been my ideas: panties, Spankardy, anal play, and spanking. I’m sure she can come up with her own. Based on the quote from her post, she understands what I need. Catch and punish work well for both of us. We need easy-to-break rules to facilitate that. How she chooses to punish might challenge her creativity.

we are doing two things that look the same but are very different

So far, the lighter side of our power exchange looks exactly the same as the more serious part. The punishments are the same for failing to send an email or annoying my lioness. That’s because I suggested that all offenses be treated with the same degree of seriousness. I made that suggestion because we discovered that it was impossible to spank effectively and at the same time, spank less for lighter offenses. So, all offenses get ten minutes of intense spanking. If I break two rules in a day, the spanking is extended for another five minutes.

This has served us well, but it hasn’t given Mrs. Lion the flexibility she wants. I’m all in favor of giving her that opportunity. My ask is that she demonstrate her power much more frequently. I do want her to spank me. That’s proven effective and also satisfies a deep need. That doesn’t rule out other options. I welcome any that she would like to exercise.

Just as I suggested taking the hour after work to catch up on household stuff, maybe consciously setting time aside for exercising her power each day might be fun for both of us. I know that Mrs. Lion can be very creative when she sets her mind to it.

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Lion has yet another reprieve from setting up the coffee pot. I won’t say he broke it on purpose, but…. (If I really thought he broke it on purpose, we’d have bigger problems than the coffee pot.) I don’t know how long it will be before the new one gets here, but he’s off the hook until then.

Ironically, I was thinking he should have a spanking just because I’m sure he’s done something to annoy me. I’ve been letting him get away with interrupting me. And a few times, after he’s interrupted me, he’s not only said what I was going to say but also gone on to mansplain all about it. It seems to me that warrants a spanking. Apparently, he can’t make it very long before he needs a refresher course on the physics of paddle-meets-butt.

I’m almost positive he was dreaming of a boner shot. Nope. Sorry. I didn’t sleep well last night and my sinuses are bothering me, so I can only muster enough strength for a spanking or play, but not both. He’ll have to wait for the boner shot.

We watched our football team absolutely stink up the field for the first half of yesterday’s game. It felt like it was going to be a repeat performance of last week’s debacle. I don’t know what was said in the locker room at halftime, but they came out and did a complete 180. True to form, they took it to the last possible minute before winning. I swear they’re going to give me an ulcer or a heart attack. (I really am glad football is back.)

This morning, I started soaking beans for another try at minestrone soup. Our first batch was good, but it needed more liquid. It was more of a chowder or stew than soup. Once the soup is on its merry way, I can take the garbage out to the curb and whomp a Lion butt. I may have to prioritize things, but I won’t forget to punish him.

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Lion was riding the spanking bench last night. I had him yelping in no time. Sometimes I don’t think I’m hitting very hard when he yelps. I don’t think he’s pretending, but I am confused when it happens.

Eventually, he started bleeding. I don’t remember if I was using a wood or leather paddle at the time. Wood tends to make him bleed. I wonder about the stitching on the leather paddles irritating his skin. Could that cause bleeding? I’m not actively trying to avoid blood. I’m also not actively trying to draw blood. Despite having a tough butt to bruise, it’s very easy to make him bleed. I wasn’t about to stop whomping. I just got a washcloth, ran warm water over it, (I could have been mean and used cold water for shock value) and wiped his buns off.

A few times, he said he’d had enough. Really? I didn’t think so. If I’d stopped, he’d have complained later that I listened to him rather than doing what I wanted to do. We’ve had this discussion before. Even if I was ready to stop, I couldn’t have stopped then because it would have looked like he was calling the shots. Besides, he has a safe word. He didn’t even say “yellow” so how bad could it have been? Around bedtime, he said his butt wasn’t even leathery. I can’t win.

I asked about a boner shot. He said he wanted to wait a while. Then he said he was hungry. When the dinner dishes were cleared, he wanted to snuggle to see what would develop. Nothing did. I still don’t know if he didn’t want to do a boner shot because he was spanked or because he is bad at initiating. This morning’s email (he remembered!) included a question about a boner shot and play for today. I’m all for it. I was all for it yesterday. And the day before. Let’s see if it happens.

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While Lion takes his shower, I have to change the bed. I get behind with laundry and don’t change it as often as I should. Lion gets itchy when it goes too long. He’s allergic to the dog. Of course, that doesn’t stop him from getting golden retrievers.

Once the bed is clean and all the dog fur/crumbs are gone, I was going to tell him to take a boner shot. However, I just looked and he was a half hour late with his morning email. It’s no longer morning when it’s past noon. Apparently he needs another reminder. Now I have to change the bed, swat the Lion and, if I’m feeling generous, torture him in some way before I give him an orgasm. A lioness’ work is never done.

The last time he wanted to do a boner shot and I had to punish him, he didn’t feel like doing the boner shot after all. He doesn’t like when I won’t do punishment and sex on the same night, but I don’t think he’s very happy to do it either. Does it depend on how bad the beating is? Maybe it depends on how mad he is at himself for breaking a rule. He can’t be mad at me. I’m only doing what the silly boy asked me to do. And, let’s be fair, he really trained me to do it. Is it my fault if I’m a good student? [Lion — GRRR]

Why should I leave it up to him whether he has sex after his spanking? I want him to enjoy it. Plus, everything is consensual. If he says no to playing on a given night, it wouldn’t be right to make him. That’s not how it works. On the other hand, if he’s just got hurt feelings from the spanking, refusing sex doesn’t seem right either. I’ll have to be a detective to figure out what the issue really is. Of course, this is all assuming he doesn’t want sex after his buns have been whomped. Maybe he will.