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Tuesday night included a nice play time. 2.0 unlocked me and got her bag of goodies. I commented that when the bag comes out — it’s a gallon zip lock filled with clothespins, velcro, soft rope, and other things that can hurt — it generally means there is pain in my immediate future. She disagreed. As usual, she was right. She took out some soft rope and tied my balls so they were extended away from my body and separated. When she does this, they bounce each time her hand moves up or down on my penis. I like that feeling.

Before she could finish tying my balls, I was erect. She edged me a few times; getting extremely close to an orgasm. She then moved between my legs and asked if I wanted to come. I enthusiastically said that I did. She began sucking my cock. She got oh so close and stopped. She asked,

“Are you sure you want to come?”

“Yes, please!”

She began again, stopping just short of the promised land. She repeated this more times than I was capable of counting. She came up for air and said,

“Are you really sure?”

I panted, “Yes!”

“Is this your day?”

“Um, no”

“I didn’t think so.”

With that she got up and moved to her side of the bed. I don’t remember being this hard before. We snuggled, my penis reaching for the sky. Finally, I calmed down and she immediately told me to put my base ring back on. Once on, she locked the cage in place. Needless to say, I’ve been very frustrated ever since.

This is the first time she asked me if I wanted an orgasm and then both physically and verbally refused to give me one. This is truly 2.0 in action. She later told me that this is what I really want her to do. She said,

Isn’t it?

I took a long time before I reluctantly agreed. I was in no mood at that time to say I wanted to be so frustrated. Now, much later, I still don’t like admitting that this sort of frustration is what I want, but it is. Mrs. Lion is getting extremely good at edging me in a way that convinces me that she is going to let me ejaculate. Even though I know she probably won’t, I can’t help myself from believing that I will finally get to come. A couple of months ago, I think she would have gone all the way. Those days of the kindly lioness are over.

Something else has changed. Now that I am unlocked immediately before being used and then locked back up when Mrs. Lion is done, I think I am associating being unlocked with being hard. In the past, after being teased or given an orgasm, I would remain unlocked for some time. So, I didn’t associate the cage being off with being erect. For the last few times, as soon as the cage comes off I get stimulated and become erect. When the session is over, as soon as I get soft, I’m told to put the base ring back on and I get locked up again.

I think I’m learning that I am expected to be hard when unlocked. When the erection wilts, I am locked up again. I wonder if I will be conditioned to start getting hard as soon as the cage comes off. I also wonder if I will get soft as soon as I am told to put the ring back on. It will take a while and very consistent management by Mrs. Lion for this conditioning to take full effect. But early signs are that I seem inclined in that direction.  She can also repeat what she did once before. She pointed to my penis, snapped her fingers and said, “Up, boy!” I loved that. I guess you can teach an old lion new tricks.

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In: Mrs Lion Comments, Sex

With all the talk about Lion’s scheduled orgasm date turning into an “at the very earliest” date, he assumed his date was today. Actually I had decided to give him one on the 5th. Unfortunately, we were both so far from even thinking about sex on the 5th, we missed it. Last night we were just looking to snuggle, but I decided I felt well enough to unlock him. He was surprised. He was even more surprised when I edged him a few times and then gave him his missed orgasm. I figured a return to normalcy required a starting point and last night was it.

Lion’s new date is the 23rd. What torture 2.0 has in store for him between now and then is anyone’s guess. He’s certainly in no position to argue after having over a week “rest”. Not that he’s ever in a position to argue, but occasionally he does try. I think I can say for a fact that 2.0 won’t be charging into anything anytime soon. We’ll stick to small scale playing until we’ve both recovered. Of course, I thought I could have said for a fact that Lion wouldn’t have had his orgasm last night. When 2.0 wants something, she tends to go after it. Last night she wanted to clean out Lion’s pipes after his hiatus. Mission accomplished.

This weekend we have to walk the fine line between getting chores caught up and doing too much. I think if we pace ourselves we’ll be okay. It’s good to be back in the land of the living even if we are still recovering. Last night was a very good sign.

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In: Lion's Journal, Sex

What’s the first thing a guy interested in enforced chastity talks about? Hardware. OK, what’s the second? Security. So according to all of us, enforced chastity is about the right device that is secure enough to prevent us from escaping. Right? Does anyone besides me see a problem with this? First, let me say that I am no different from anyone else. I spent years exploring hardware. I read and wrote endless forum posts and articles on how to assure escape would be difficult and detectable. Now, of course, I see the errors of my ways.

There’s a pretty good chance most of the people reading this share these obsessions. Enforced chastity is about secure penis bondage. Actually, it really isn’t. You don’t need any hardware to practice it. It’s about surrendering sexual control to someone else. You give that other person, your keyholder, the right to decide if and when you get sex of any kind.

“See?” you say, “You need secure hardware to assure that control has been transferred to someone else.” That would only be true if a tribe of Amazons captured you and took your cock hostage. Under those conditions, according to the Geneva Convention, you have a duty to escape. But that’s not what happened, is it?

You decided you wanted to surrender control and you asked someone to assume that control. She didn’t ask you to give her your cock. She never threatened to leave you unless you were prevented from having erections without her supervision. She probably didn’t much care if you jerked off as long as you were available for the sex she desired. So, who is the one who wants you firmly locked into a chastity device? You, of course.

As long as I’ve known about them, I’ve found the idea of wearing a chastity device arousing. The idea that a “thing” could take away my favorite toy and turn control over to someone else is amazingly hot. Further, the idea that once locked on, I couldn’t “change my mind” is even more exciting.

Many guys, including me, find the idea of forcibly having control taken from us very hot. The idea that Mrs. Lion has the key to my penis locked away and she will only unlock it when she wants to tease me, or occasionally, get me to ejaculate, is a living fantasy. My fantasy. I know she never had a fantasy like that.

What if instead of the locked penis fantasy, I asked Mrs. Lion to take control of my sexuality. I would agree not to touch my penis for pleasure and would wait for her to provide any fun at all. Violations of this agreement would either end it or get me spanked. Would that work too? Of course it would. “But,” that little voice inside me shouts, “You could sneak a wank in the shower or anyplace else you are alone.” Ah ha! So the locked device is to prevent me from being dishonest about the surrender I asked for? I’m going to cheat on my own fantasy?

“But, but,” that voice says plaintively, “Even with a device, if it isn’t secure enough you can secretly pull out, jerk off, and go back in.” Hmmm. Who would I be cheating? Mrs. Lion? Well, yes. But mostly I would be cheating myself.

How did I get myself into this obviously stupid way of thinking? The answer is that I started out the process by thinking I needed a device to keep me honest. I convinced myself that my penis is an independent creature with no interest in what the rest of me wants. It has a mind of its own. Really? That sort of crap went away decades ago. My penis is part of me. My desire for sex is one of my most powerful motivators. But, it is under my control. Do I really need to be protected from myself?

Enforced chastity assumes some maturity on the part of the male who wants it. It requires a bond of trust between keyholder and caged male. No matter how frustrated and horny I become, there is never a reason for me to cheat. Never. Hardware just makes things a bit more fun. Maybe this will give you an idea why I say that “security” is the least important thing about a chastity device. If you disagree, reread this post.

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Both of us are improving. I made it to work yesterday. I’m not back to full speed, but at least I’m not falling off my paws. Without the distraction of sexual activity or, for my part, any real interest in sex, I find myself becoming more introspective about exactly what we are doing. Philosophically, am I really in bondage if I don’t want to move anyway? Yes, my penis is locked up and is unable to get hard or otherwise express itself sexually. If it weren’t locked, would something change? Would I suddenly need to masturbate or find another female? The answer is, no. So what’s the point?

Isn’t the big point of any power exchange that the dominant partner exerts will or force over the submissive partner? That means, by definition, that the submissive partner is prevented from either doing something or avoiding something that hurts, is humiliating, or in some other way is not wanted. Clearly, since this is consensual, the submissive partner is actually being made to do something he agreed to accept.

With enforced chastity the agreement is to allow the keyholder to control all male sexual expression. The assumption is that the male will want sex and he will be denied it until the keyholder decides to let him express it. This is most apparent in orgasm control. The male wants to come, but he can’t. He is locked into a chastity device that won’t even let him get hard. Hence, enforced chastity.

What happens if the male doesn’t want to come? His interest in getting off has evaporated. Has the power exchange ended? He may be locked into a chastity device but it has no effect on him since he doesn’t care about sex. Some keyholders would love this situation. They may have locked up their partners because they didn’t want to deal with his sex drive. Most aren’t like this. They enjoy the tension, increased communication, and the sexual energy that having a locked penis can create. The more he wants to orgasm, the higher the energy level. The locked penis is a sexual battery fully charged and ready to spark.

If that battery loses its charge, the fun goes out of the game. A pat on the ass no longer gets that little gasp. Suggestive comments don’t light up the desperation in his eyes. This is the point that the keyholder needs to recharge that battery.

If enforced chastity has taught me anything, it taught me that male sexuality is a lot more complex than I ever imagined. I’ve learned that after a given length of time without an orgasm, even with daily edging, I will lose interest in finally coming. Other guys have described this too. It becomes easier and easier to wait. The teasing feels wonderful, but I lose the desperate need for my lioness to go just one more stroke to push me over the edge. When the session is over and there is no ejaculation, I’m not humping air. I’m not begging for release. I just lose my erection and wait to be locked up again.

My sexual battery loses its ability to take a full charge. That changes immediately after I get to come. I may be at a point where the orgasm isn’t a blinding light, but rather a jolt of relief. It doesn’t matter. Within a day or so I am ready to be teased and made so desperate for release that I will do anything to improve my chances. A couple of weeks later my ability to take a full charge has diminished noticeably.

Enforced chastity is a delicate dance. Every male is different. Some, unlike me, will remain fully charged for months on end. Others will start fading in a few days. A critical keyholder skill is knowing how to maintain her caged male’s sexual battery on full charge.