jail bird chastity device
My one inch Jail Bird. Could this be the new standard size for off-the-shelf chastity devices?

Sunday night, with the help of the Magic Wand vibrator, Mrs. Lion finally got me off after 11 days of waiting. I’m still not sure why I had difficulty during this time. But, at least for now, the drought is over. I’m still wild and un-spanked. I have a feeling it won’t be long before both will be corrected. I wonder if I will end up in the locking cock ring or the Jail Bird.

penis being washed in the shower
This feels amazing! I love how Mrs. Lion keeps me clean.
(Click image to watch the complete video of this great shower handjob)

Mrs. Lion is still my shower buddy. Truth be told, I can do a lot of the washing myself. However, it’s much more fun when she does it for me. Her penis-washing skill is amazing. Since I mentioned it, she’s been spending extra time making sure my erection is squeaky clean. What fun!

I’m a little surprised that there hasn’t been much recent innovation in the chastity device field. Male chastity devices seem to have stopped evolving. The only possible exception is the Nub. Even that, is really a derivative of the classic, Holy Trainer line of chastity devices.

I’m not sure what I expect. After all, there are only so many containers you can build designed to house a flaccid penis. In my life, the only real innovation has been my discovery that cage length (or tube length) can be one short size, 1 inch long I believe.

Six years ago, cage length was considered critical. The flaccid penis needed to be contained in a cage long enough to allow it to comfortably rest inside. It took me a while to realize that I don’t have a single, flaccid length. In my case, I varied from over 2 1/2 inches to 1 1/4 inches, depending on my body position, temperature, time of day, etc.

I think every guy has a similar experience. I’m not sure why it took me so long to realize that flaccid penis length is probably the least critical factor when measuring for a male chastity device.

My standard, every day device is a Jail Bird. If the cage is longer than my current penis length, the head is free to move off-center putting a bar in front of my urethra. This guarantees any attempted urination will be in messy affair with urine spraying all over the place. The manufacturer of the Jail Bird recommends that the head and sides of the penis remain in firm contact with the bars at all times. They say it should fit the same way a glove fits on your hand. After having my Jail Bird shortened twice, I now have a cage that’s a scant 1 inch long.

It fits like a glove. The only thing visible between the bars is the head of my penis. That took a little getting used to. It’s absolutely comfortable to wear, but it’s a little strange to look down and just see head of the penis. The rest is invisible. From what I’ve read, this view is a little disturbing to some guys. Oh well.

I think this discovery is pretty important. It means that off-the-shelf chastity devices can be sold that will provide a fit as good as the much more expensive custom devices like the Jail Bird.

If you accept the idea that a very short cage works for almost everyone, then there are only two measurements that need to be addressed: The first, and probably most critical, is the base ring diameter. This is the ring that anchors the device. Both balls and the penis are threaded through this ring and then the cage is locked to it.

I’ve learned that the base ring size is also not terribly critical. Most guys attempt to wear base rings that are too tight. They reason that a tight base ring will make escape from the device more difficult. It will. But it will also irritate the area it’s around. A too-large base ring will allow a ball to escape. One that is correctly sized, will feel comfortable to wear long term and successfully contain both balls. According to a few manufacturers, a one and three-quarter inch diameter ring works well for most men.

The second, and probably most critical dimension, is the diameter of the cage. Surprisingly, not much is written about this measurement. The reason for it is that most of us are very similar in size when it comes to the diameter of our flaccid penises. There’s some leeway in this measurement. Most critical is that it can’t be too small. If it is too small, edema (swelling of the flaccid penis) is likely. Urination will also be more difficult. If it is too large, erections get a bit too much of a head start and can result in the cage being pushed out pulling the balls with it.

Most Western penises will comfortably fit in a cage with a diameter between 1.25 and 1.5 inches. Of course, some guys will be too large. However, most of us will fit nicely in a chastity device with a one and three-quarter inch base ring and a cage with a diameter of 1 1/2 inches and a length of 1 inch. When device manufacturers realize this, it should be easy to find an inexpensive device that will work nicely long-term.

I think that there is a certain amount of penis ego tied up in chastity device selection. That’s a little surprising to me since the whole purpose of the device is to remove the penis as a sexual object unless the keyholder wants to free it for some activity. Until that time, it should be a simple, utilitarian part of the body that has the single-purpose of facilitating urination.

I know that all of us get sexually aroused by the idea of the control a chastity  device imposes on us. It’s a really sexy form of bondage. Maybe we have to grow up a little bit and recognize that  a chastity device is not a sex-proof display case for the penis. It’s a sex proof barrier with the single purpose of permitting urination and preventing sexual arousal and satisfaction. Right?

Mrs. Lion’s enthusiastic NFL swats did the trick. Later Sunday night, she managed to edge me within an inch  of my life. Whew! As shown in  yesterday’s post, she really marked my butt. The new, heavier tenderizer is a mean paddle.

I’m starting to think that paddling is paddling. Mrs. Lion went full force for our game and while it hurt a lot, it flipped that inner switch. Perhaps the difference between play spanking and punishment is duration, not force. I know that seems odd, but apparently I do better when paddling has only one meaning to me. It’s always painful and marks me. Just some are much longer than others. What do you think Mrs. Lion?

Jai9l B9rd vs locking cock ring
My locking cock ring and Jail Bird. Obviously, the Jail Bird prevents my penis from growing. But is it really that different from the locking cock ring?
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It’s interesting that I got a comment yesterday on a subject that I’ve been thinking about a lot. Slave Robert wrote:

“I think you should abandon the locking device and revert to the Jailbird. I am proud to wear my Queen’s Keep for my Queen and, for me, the idea of wearing a locking device would feel decidedly ‘fake’.”

I had the same thought. Is a locking cock ring that makes my penis accessible even a little like wearing a chastity device? Obviously, the Jail Bird makes it close to impossible for me to play with my penis. The locking cock ring poses no challenge at all. That makes the answer seem obvious.

If all I think about is having the ability to play with my penis, obviously I need the Jail Bird for security.  But it’s not that simple. I’ve been trained not to play with my penis. Even when wild, I didn’t masturbate. I don’t need a chastity device to assure that my only source of sexual pleasure is Mrs. Lion.

I discovered that I do need something. When wild, I missed feeling a device attached to me that I can’t remove. I ordered the locking cock ring to provide a non-removable device that feels like my Jail Bird. Well then, why not the Jail Bird itself? It’s effective and I’ve worn it for years.

I was getting tired of dealing with the difficulty aligning my penis for peeing and the little pinches it gives me during the day. I wanted to see if there might be another option. So, I ordered the cock ring.

In my case, I’m trained not to touch my penis for fun. As a result, the cock ring is just as effective as the Jail Bird. I’m too well trained to cheat. The cage isn’t really necessary. I agree that the cage is cool. It definitely feels more like bondage. But the locking cock ring attaches the same way as the Jail Bird. It’s there and I can’t remove it. So, for me at least, it’s a fair substitute.

Today’s the big day. Graduation. After four long years of studying, my daughter (the honors student) will receive her diploma. And two days later we go for orientation for the next four long years of studying. This time she’ll have a little more say in what courses she takes.

I’m excited and sad at the same time. She’s worked very hard and I’m proud of her. Of course part of me wants her to stay little. And another part of me knows that college is harder than high school. Out of the frying pan into the fire. But she’ll do well. And I’ll be proud of her even on the off chance she doesn’t.

I’m proud of Lion too. I know he’s lonely but he’s putting on a brave face. We’ve got three days down and five to go before we’ll be together. We can make it.

I’m glad he asked to be allowed to take the Jail Bird off when it was hurting him. I would have understood if he had to do it without permission. Pain is definitely an emergency. Even a little sore can become a lot bigger if it isn’t taken care of. I’d rather be safe than sorry.

Lion has also been a busy boy. He’s arranged a visit from a high school friend. He asked for my permission first and once I gave it the deal was done. One house guest in October is on the books. I bet we’ll have fun!

penis in male chastity device
Lion safely caged and sealed

No, I’m not afraid to fly. The way I see it, if the plane goes down I may have some time to be scared but it certainly won’t be for long. After that I won’t care anymore. I hate flying because of all the packing, going through security, waiting around for boarding, boarding, being stuck in a tin can for hours at a time and waiting for people in front of me to get their belongings and get off the plane. What a process! Yuck!!

On the other hand, six hours to the east coast is pretty fast when you consider that driving takes days. I can sleep, play games on my iPad, people bring me drinks and food. The only thing better would be first class although the cost outweighs the luxury for us. I could probably buy three round trip coach tickets for the price of one round trip first class ticket. Not worth it. I’ll save that money to take my kids to dinner.

I’m very excited to see my daughter graduate. Don’t tell anyone but she’s my favorite youngest child. She’s graduating with honors and heading to college in August. I’m very proud of her.

Now that we’ve solved the problem of how to lock Lion up, I’ll have to come up with things to make him do for pictures. The old ransom note kind of thing is more difficult since people don’t have newspapers readily available anymore. I think it’s probably more important to have the number on the seal visible than to prove he’s locked at any particular time. He could even take several pictures of the seal and send them to me at any time all while he’s wild. That, of course, would defeat the purpose of locking him up anyway and if I never allow him to cut the seal he’d be in big trouble when I got home to find a different seal. [Lion — The camera records the date and time of each picture. I’m sure Mrs. Lion can easily find a viewer that reveals the date and time each picture was taken.]

Lion wouldn’t do that. He’s a good boy. He sees the value in the power part of his being locked up. And the fun too. He always says I never notice the cage. Now I’m actually asking for pictures of it. How did that happen? It just seemed like a nice way to be with him even if I’m not with him.