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In: Chastity Hardware Security, Female led relationship with discipline, Power Exchange

I’m trying to be a little proactive. I have a lot to do, both for Lion and myself, and I don’t want to leave it all till the last minute. I need to clean the house and change the bed so Lion doesn’t have so many problems with allergies. We have errands to run tomorrow. I have to do laundry so I can pack. And there are other things here and there that need to be done. We’ll get things done. It just might be a photo finish.

Yesterday Lion solved the problem of the plastic lock fitting in the Jail Bird. I’m glad. I’d rather have him in the Jail Bird for a week than the plastic cage. I think it’s more comfortable and it’s certainly easier to clean. He tested the lock for quite a few hours. Around 10 pm he asked if I knew he was still in the cage. Well I hope he was. I hadn’t unlocked him. I didn’t remember telling him he could take it off. Therefore, he should still have been in the cage. Sometimes I’m a pretty good detective like that.

I pretended I couldn’t get him out of the cage. My scissors were way over there. His scissors were in the opposite direction. What’s a Lion to do? When I finally unlocked him he got hard but that was about it. It was late and I think he was fairly itchy. We had a snack and about an hour later he announced he was horny. I was sleepy and done for the night. We’ll have some fun tonight and then some more tomorrow night before I give him his orgasm and lock him safely away.

This is the first time Lion will be locked for so many days straight. Usually I unlock him at least every other day to play with him and let Mr. Weenie stretch. I’m glad he’ll be able to get out of the cage easily. Not that I want him to get out but just knowing he can is a relief to me. I’m always worried when he’s locked up that something will happen and he won’t be able to free himself. I trust him enough to know that he wouldn’t unlock himself just for the heck of it. And, yes, I trust him enough to be wild while I’m gone. So what’s the point of locking him up at all?

Since I can’t be here to play with him, it’s a fun way to show him who’s in charge. I can ask Lion if Mr. Weenie is behaving, but now I can also ask him to prove it. He can send me a picture of my weenie hunkered down in the cage. If he somehow forgets he’s wearing the cage (it is comfortable after all) and I remind him, he’ll know I’m thinking about him and his predicament. He can tell me he misses me or he can send me a picture of a muffled erection inside the cage. I could even tell him to take a video of him taking the cage off so I can see the “helmet head” and then tell him to lock himself back up. I’ll know the new lock number. I’m sure I’ll think of other ways to show my power over him.

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In: Chastity Hardware Security, Mrs Lion Comments

Last night we tried one of the plastic lock ties in the Jail Bird. It seemed to hold well. The cage was not prone to wiggling around. However, the tag with the number was very large. I suggested Lion try it for a bit with underwear and jeans on to see if the tag would be in the way.

While you couldn’t see the lock under his clothes, he could feel it. The final test was how a trip to the bathroom would be. That tag is just too big. It’s too bad because it held the cage closed with no movement. It is possible there’s a plastic lock out there that will be perfect but we’re running out of time to find it.

Never fear though. I can still lock Lion away in the nylon cage. He’s sure it shouldn’t stink too much in just a week. He can wash around it, just not as well as around the Jail Bird. Worst case scenario is that I’ll lock Lion in the Jail Bird and make sure he has an emergency key. The bottom line is that he will be locked up.

[Lion — We have some new seal candidates to try tonight. Stay tuned.]

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In: Chastity hardware, Chastity Hardware Security, Lion's Journal

As we are completing our third year of enforced chastity, our life with it continues to mature. Over the last three years there have been times I have been allowed to run wild with no chastity device locked on me. These periods centered around vacation and business travel. There have also been times I spent a few days wild for no real reason.

Our Jail Bird has developed a sign of age. The security screw doesn’t stay tight no matter how firmly Mrs. Lion turns it. Within a day it works its way loose enough to be removed without a tool. Mrs. Lion isn’t concerned I will take advantage of this situation, but we both worry the screw could work itself out completely and get lost. Apparently this isn’t a unique problem. Mature Metal advised me that this happens and the ring needs rethreading. To get this done, we have to return the entire device, security screws, and the tool.

I prefer that I am unable to remove the cage myself. I like the loss of control. Mrs. Lion indicated that she also prefers things that way. I suggested that we might want to consider getting a “spare” Jail Bird. This is expensive. Mine costs over $400 with the security screw option. The alternative is to send the hardware back. I would then be without a cage for at least two weeks.

Over the last few weeks, my uncaged time has been drastically reduced. Mrs. Lion now understands that I like being consistently locked up. She used to unlock me for teasing and then leave me wild until after my last pee of the night. She would then lock me up before we went to sleep. I’ve been a bit uncomfortable with this. The times that she unlocked me just prior to teasing and then immediately caged me again when she was done, felt much better. So, she has had me put the ring back on and then she cages me immediately after she is finished with her weenie.

In general, as you might have noticed, she has become more possessive of her weenie. I was punished for trying to help her get me hard. I appreciate this greatly. She has been growing stricter and more consistent in other areas as well. Is this 2.0 finally taking over? I hope so.

I travel to the East Coast about once a month since I started my new job. I am allowed to be wild for my travels. The Jail Bird would certainly set off the TSA metal detectors. We both agreed that self locking made little sense. I do enjoy the freedom and comfort of being a free-range lion. Can I reconcile this with my increased sense of security when I am more strictly locked at home?

I would like to think so. I did order a new, very different plastic device. It would pass airport security easily. If it is comfortable, Mrs. Lion could keep me caged when I travel as well. I’m not sure I would like that. Six hour flights are barely tolerable now. Any chastity device would add to the discomfort.

I’m not caged to prevent unauthorized sexual activity. The main reason I am locked up is that the cage provides a very practical symbol of our power exchange. Neither of us consider it a kinky sex toy at this point. The chastity device has a significant purpose in our relationship. it forces both of us to maintain a sexual power balance that has restored intimacy for us. Neither of us can forget the cage is locked on my genitals.

So, if I am wild when i travel perhaps that reminder isn’t as necessary as it is when we are together. I just don’t know. I do know that I am very happy when Mrs. Lion makes a point of keeping me locked as much of the time as possible and reminds me of her power.

Whether or not I am wild when traveling isn’t really the issue now. I think that what counts the most is that I am always under direct supervision or locked up when we are in the same geographical area. Is it worth $400 to guarantee that there won’t be any interruption?

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In: Chastity Hardware Security, Lion's Journal

I’ve been writing and talking about a stricter 2.0. This prompted her to write a bit about my desire to be securely locked even more of the time. I pointed out that leaving me wild in the shower, for example, gives me an opportunity to masturbate unobserved. She said that if I did this, she would either unlock me and end enforced chastity or punish me. She isn’t sure which.

That comment started me thinking about how things have changed. In the beginning, enforced chastity was my “thing”. Mrs. Lion acted as my keyholder out of a desire to make me happy. Under those circumstances, ending enforced chastity would be the appropriate response to such a blatant defiance of what I wanted. Now, over two years later, I think that things are completely different.

Should I commit the sin of jerking off when not authorized and Mrs. Lion decides that we will end enforced chastity, a lot more will happen than no longer indulging my fantasy. We’ve evolved what started as a sexual game into the linchpin of our sexual relationship. If the cage comes off, how do we maintain the intimacy we have? There is no incentive for her to tease me. That was part of enforced chastity. She isn’t interested in sex for herself so there is no motivation for mutual sexual contact.

I think we would return to our past, unsatisfactory sexual distance. Mrs. Lion and I have discussed what might happen if I got tired of being locked up. She made it clear that is no longer an option for me. The reason: the risk of losing our sexual intimacy and other benefits we both enjoy. This is no longer my kink. It’s a key part of our relationship. So, ending it would be destructive to a lot more than my chastity fantasy.

If you wonder how this could happen since I know how important it is to surrender my sexuality, the answer is fairly simple. Assume I am daydreaming about something sexual while in the shower. I’m uncaged and my hand wanders into forbidden territory. It feels good and before I know it, I come. There is no excuse for it, but it could happen. I’m sure that most guys have had similar experiences. So far I have been extremely careful to no have such thoughts when wild.

Let’s assume I do this. What should Mrs. Lion do when she finds out? Since enforced chastity is so important to us both, ending it is probably off the table. Punishment must be administered. I have no idea what she would do, but I am very sure I wouldn’t forget it. The switch from abandoning the kink to punishing for a serious infraction is an indicator of how important enforced chastity has become for us. That’s why I am writing this. My sexual behavior is not only controlled by my lioness. She owns it absolutely and isn’t going to return it to me, ever.

A reason I wrote about stricter caging is based on my realization that we need to avoid giving me any opportunity to sexually touch myself. Yes, I have excellent self control. But enforced chastity is a 24/7/365 practice. Opportunities to mess up need to be avoided. As I see it, the less possibility of a “mistake” the better for me and for us.

That means I probably shouldn’t have any time when my penis is available and I am not directly supervised. No more “wild” showers unless Mrs. Lion is watching me. No RV weekends uncaged. If I am uncaged to use the bathroom, direct supervision should be supplied. The reason we use a locked chastity device is to make unauthorized sexual touching impossible. Since the consequences of an “accident” would resonate through our relationship, that locked device is much more than a symbol. It prevents a problem that would be difficult to handle.

[Mrs. Lion – I can see Lion’s point about a lapse in concentration in the shower. However, that implies that if he were not caged, a similar lapse in concentration could result in his cheating with another woman. I’m not sure how I would handle that. It would certainly take him a long time to regain my trust. Cheating in the shower may not be as severe an offense as cheating with another woman, but with our relationship at stake, why take a chance?]