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A number of people on the chastity forum have been writing about ejaculating while locked in a chastity device. It’s been a while since I’ve heard people talk about this. In the 90’s, when I was reviewing chastity devices, the owner of Access Denied who made full chastity belts told me about an extreme case.

One of his customers locked himself up intending to permanently stay in the belt. He got very frustrated and desperately looked for ways to get off. Finally, after some time he managed to be able to ejaculate by playing with his nipples. He went back to Access Denied and asked for a stainless steel bra to keep his hands away from this new source of orgasm.

Most women know that they have multiple erogenous areas capable of producing orgasm. A good number can come during anal intercourse. Others have been known to have nipple-induced orgasms. I had one lover who could reliably get off by being spanked.

Most guys, me included, never felt the need to explore alternate paths to ejaculation. I’ve felt the Magic Wand against my cage. It felt good, but not good enough to get me off. Other guys find the Magic Wand a reliable in-cage orgasm producer.

In case you didn’t know, an erection is not required for ejaculation. Over the years there have been occasions when I masturbated and was unable to get hard yet I still eventually ejaculated.

I’m a little surprised that some guys feel dedicated enough to defeating their chastity devices that they will find a way to ejaculate inside them. I know that some keyholders have induced in-cage ejaculations just for the fun of it.

Some people think that because the motivation for wearing a chastity device is to experience sexual control, that they need to find ways to defeat it as a way of testing the control. Defeating chastity devices is a time-honored hobby. I’ve always thought it was distinctly different from the kind of enforced chastity I experience.

Given enough time it’s pretty easy to learn how to ejaculate inside a chastity device. There is no fixed formula in terms of penis stimulation needed for that orgasm. Men with spinal cord injuries who can’t achieve erection can ejaculate given the right kind of stimulation. There are devices that provide electro-stim that can produce orgasms. Erections are completely beside the point. If you are inclined to try non-contact ejaculation, there is a wide range of electro-stim devices that with practice, will get you off.

This sort of activity is outside of my chastity experience. I suppose that if Mrs. Lion wanted to unlock me and play with electro-stim or other alternate sexual stimulation techniques that would be fine. I’m not willing to do anything to defeat her control of my orgasms.

For me at least, enforced chastity is about being trained to surrender sexual pleasure to my lioness regardless of how long she wishes to deny me. I just don’t want my experience to be like a prisoner of war, where I am obligated to do everything I can to escape. Sure, there are times I wish I could get myself off. It’s not always easy to be under someone else’s control.

I’m not suggesting that my way is the One True Way. If a couple wants to do something different there is nothing wrong with that. Certainly, the tradition of attempting escape or orgasm while locked is probably older than the power exchange we practice.

Obviously, it’s not “normal” to ejaculate with the flaccid penis. The only way most of us could experience that would be getting off while locked in a chastity device. Almost everyone who has tried this reports that the resulting orgasm was not particularly satisfying.

This topic fits into the “chastity device security” category. It’s a twist on getting the penis to escape. In this case, the penis stays safely locked up but it’s owner gets an orgasm and ejaculates anyway. If it’s important to prevent this, a full chastity belt is required. Most are built so that even the mighty Magic Wand will be unable to penetrate with its sexy vibrations.

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jail bird chastity device
My one inch Jail Bird. Could this be the new standard size for off-the-shelf chastity devices?

Sunday night, with the help of the Magic Wand vibrator, Mrs. Lion finally got me off after 11 days of waiting. I’m still not sure why I had difficulty during this time. But, at least for now, the drought is over. I’m still wild and un-spanked. I have a feeling it won’t be long before both will be corrected. I wonder if I will end up in the locking cock ring or the Jail Bird.

penis being washed in the shower
This feels amazing! I love how Mrs. Lion keeps me clean.
(Click image to watch the complete video of this great shower handjob)

Mrs. Lion is still my shower buddy. Truth be told, I can do a lot of the washing myself. However, it’s much more fun when she does it for me. Her penis-washing skill is amazing. Since I mentioned it, she’s been spending extra time making sure my erection is squeaky clean. What fun!

I’m a little surprised that there hasn’t been much recent innovation in the chastity device field. Male chastity devices seem to have stopped evolving. The only possible exception is the Nub. Even that, is really a derivative of the classic, Holy Trainer line of chastity devices.

I’m not sure what I expect. After all, there are only so many containers you can build designed to house a flaccid penis. In my life, the only real innovation has been my discovery that cage length (or tube length) can be one short size, 1 inch long I believe.

Six years ago, cage length was considered critical. The flaccid penis needed to be contained in a cage long enough to allow it to comfortably rest inside. It took me a while to realize that I don’t have a single, flaccid length. In my case, I varied from over 2 1/2 inches to 1 1/4 inches, depending on my body position, temperature, time of day, etc.

I think every guy has a similar experience. I’m not sure why it took me so long to realize that flaccid penis length is probably the least critical factor when measuring for a male chastity device.

My standard, every day device is a Jail Bird. If the cage is longer than my current penis length, the head is free to move off-center putting a bar in front of my urethra. This guarantees any attempted urination will be in messy affair with urine spraying all over the place. The manufacturer of the Jail Bird recommends that the head and sides of the penis remain in firm contact with the bars at all times. They say it should fit the same way a glove fits on your hand. After having my Jail Bird shortened twice, I now have a cage that’s a scant 1 inch long.

It fits like a glove. The only thing visible between the bars is the head of my penis. That took a little getting used to. It’s absolutely comfortable to wear, but it’s a little strange to look down and just see head of the penis. The rest is invisible. From what I’ve read, this view is a little disturbing to some guys. Oh well.

I think this discovery is pretty important. It means that off-the-shelf chastity devices can be sold that will provide a fit as good as the much more expensive custom devices like the Jail Bird.

If you accept the idea that a very short cage works for almost everyone, then there are only two measurements that need to be addressed: The first, and probably most critical, is the base ring diameter. This is the ring that anchors the device. Both balls and the penis are threaded through this ring and then the cage is locked to it.

I’ve learned that the base ring size is also not terribly critical. Most guys attempt to wear base rings that are too tight. They reason that a tight base ring will make escape from the device more difficult. It will. But it will also irritate the area it’s around. A too-large base ring will allow a ball to escape. One that is correctly sized, will feel comfortable to wear long term and successfully contain both balls. According to a few manufacturers, a one and three-quarter inch diameter ring works well for most men.

The second, and probably most critical dimension, is the diameter of the cage. Surprisingly, not much is written about this measurement. The reason for it is that most of us are very similar in size when it comes to the diameter of our flaccid penises. There’s some leeway in this measurement. Most critical is that it can’t be too small. If it is too small, edema (swelling of the flaccid penis) is likely. Urination will also be more difficult. If it is too large, erections get a bit too much of a head start and can result in the cage being pushed out pulling the balls with it.

Most Western penises will comfortably fit in a cage with a diameter between 1.25 and 1.5 inches. Of course, some guys will be too large. However, most of us will fit nicely in a chastity device with a one and three-quarter inch base ring and a cage with a diameter of 1 1/2 inches and a length of 1 inch. When device manufacturers realize this, it should be easy to find an inexpensive device that will work nicely long-term.

I think that there is a certain amount of penis ego tied up in chastity device selection. That’s a little surprising to me since the whole purpose of the device is to remove the penis as a sexual object unless the keyholder wants to free it for some activity. Until that time, it should be a simple, utilitarian part of the body that has the single-purpose of facilitating urination.

I know that all of us get sexually aroused by the idea of the control a chastity  device imposes on us. It’s a really sexy form of bondage. Maybe we have to grow up a little bit and recognize that  a chastity device is not a sex-proof display case for the penis. It’s a sex proof barrier with the single purpose of permitting urination and preventing sexual arousal and satisfaction. Right?

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Lion's penis in shorter cages
Left, is my original Jail Bird. After about a year, I had it shortened from 1-3/4 in to 1-1/4 in. A couple of years after that, I had it shortened to just 1 in. Note that my penis fits comfortably in the one-inch cage.
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Physics plays a big part in chastity device comfort. The penis is filled with special, spongy tissue. When the penis is sexually aroused, this tissue fills with blood and creates an erection. Blood, like water is incompressible. That’s what makes the penis hard.

The energy pushing the blood into that tissue comes from the heart. If you have low blood pressure, erections can be difficult and not as hard as you might want. High blood pressure, on the other hand, can make you bigger and harder. I’m not suggesting high blood pressure is worth having to support nicer erections. Oh no, health risks far outweigh the ego boost a super cock might give you.

When it comes to a chastity device, the hard cage (or tube) prevents blood from filling the spongy tissue and prevents an erection. That’s the theory. There’s another factor. The more room the penis has to grow inside the cage, the more force the budding erection will exert against its prison. That’s why many guys experience the base ring moving up their cocks when they try to get hard.

it’s all a matter of physics. The more blood that can get into your penis before it encounters the cage, the more force it can apply to the device. Think of it this way, if the device is very short the penis can grow only a tiny bit, and not enough blood gets into it exert enough pressure to force the base ring to climb the penis. Theoretically, and from my experience, I learned that the shorter the chastity device the less pressure the inflating penis puts onto the device and its base ring.

The penis is an amazing structure. Not only can it expand in size and get hard enough to penetrate the tightest orifice, when flaccid it can compress to a tiny nub. Anyone who has gone swimming in cold water is aware how tiny his penis can get.

It’s this property of the penis that makes it possible to wear a chastity device that seems impossibly short. When the penis expands as an erection forms, most of the expansion is to the length. The diameter of the cock grows a bit but nothing like the length. That’s why it’s important to get a chastity device that fits properly across the diameter of the penis. I found that if you measure the diameter of your soft penis and subtract one quarter of an inch, you will have a good size for the diameter of the cage.

A lot of guys try to solve “cage creep” by decreasing the diameter of the base ring. They reason that a smaller ring will grip harder. It will, but it is virtually guaranteed to cause pain and irritation.  Once you find a base ring size that won’t let your balls escape and is just tight enough so that you can get a finger between it and your skin, you probably have the right size. It’s a good idea to buy a set of measuring rings (Mature Metal has a nice set at a reasonable price). The ring needs to move a bit as you do. Too tight a ring will chafe you as it tries to flex with your body. Some guys use lube to allow a tight ring to slip. That’s not good long term. It’s much better to have the right fit.

Collared Michael wrote a post in his blog yesterday (read it here) about his hardware. That post reminded me that I meant to write about device sizing. Thanks Michael! He mentioned that he has base ring creep when he attempts an erection. My advice to him and to you is to consider a drastically shorter cage.

I know, it’s expensive to have a custom cage shortened. I did it twice. My original Jail Bird was sized based on my average flaccid length. Over a bunch of measurements, my soft penis measures an average of 2 inches. The longest cage (far left in the image at the top of the page), is 1 3/4 inches long. As you can see in the picture, there are times when tip of my penis did not touch the end of the cage. Other times, it looked like a very good fit.

My problem with this cage was that when the tip of my cock wasn’t pressed against the bars, more often than not when I peed, I would make a mess. Other guys experience base ring creep with the cage that supports so much of the cock.

Mrs. Lion measured the distance between the end of the cage and the tip of my penis when it wasn’t pressing. The average was about 1/4 inch. We decided to shorten the cage from one and three-quarter inches to 1 1/4 inches. The middle picture shows the 1 1/4 inch version.

This cage stayed nicely in contact with the head of my cock almost all the time. There were occasions when even this very short cage appeared to be slightly too long. I wondered what would happen if I further shortened it. Before investing in the cost of shortening my Jail Bird, I went shopping for an off-the-shelf cage of approximately the right size.

lion in Chinese chastity device
Short Chinese cage from dhgate.com.
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I found a cage about 1 inch long and 1 1/4 inches in diameter on dhgate.com (click here to go to the page for this product) It costs $25 and arrives about three weeks after ordering. It’s a nicely made chastity device. I began wearing it and discovered it was both comfortable and secure. After about two weeks testing this, I sent my Jail Bird back to Mature Metal and had them shorten it to just 1 inch in length. This is the shortest they can make this cage.

When we got it back, I put it on and it fit perfectly. Yes, my cock was compressed. The cage is just long enough for the head of my cock to be contained without squeezing. The photo top, right of this post is me wearing the 1 inch version.

I experienced absolutely no problems in this much-shorter cage. Attempted erections barely had a chance to get going. I still found “grill marks” on the head of my penis after an attempted erection. I think they’re cool. Accurately peeing is much easier in this shortest cage. It’s absolutely invisible under all of my clothing, including just my underwear.

The reason I didn’t just stay with the Chinese cage, is that it isn’t nearly as comfortable as the Jail Bird. The cost of shortening my cage was very reasonable. Mature Metal is very fair about pricing alterations. One thing that they cannot change is the diameter of the cage. Length is easy. Changing the diameter of the base ring is also inexpensive.

I strongly recommend very short cages. Aside from simplifying peeing and making the device more invisible, it also eliminates issues caused by attempted erections. I suggest you invest the 25 bucks and try a radically short cage. It does take a while to get used to, but it doesn’t hurt and ultimately solves some of the inconveniences wearing a chastity device creates.

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Mrs. Lion’s enthusiastic NFL swats did the trick. Later Sunday night, she managed to edge me within an inch  of my life. Whew! As shown in  yesterday’s post, she really marked my butt. The new, heavier tenderizer is a mean paddle.

I’m starting to think that paddling is paddling. Mrs. Lion went full force for our game and while it hurt a lot, it flipped that inner switch. Perhaps the difference between play spanking and punishment is duration, not force. I know that seems odd, but apparently I do better when paddling has only one meaning to me. It’s always painful and marks me. Just some are much longer than others. What do you think Mrs. Lion?

Jai9l B9rd vs locking cock ring
My locking cock ring and Jail Bird. Obviously, the Jail Bird prevents my penis from growing. But is it really that different from the locking cock ring?
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It’s interesting that I got a comment yesterday on a subject that I’ve been thinking about a lot. Slave Robert wrote:

“I think you should abandon the locking device and revert to the Jailbird. I am proud to wear my Queen’s Keep for my Queen and, for me, the idea of wearing a locking device would feel decidedly ‘fake’.”

I had the same thought. Is a locking cock ring that makes my penis accessible even a little like wearing a chastity device? Obviously, the Jail Bird makes it close to impossible for me to play with my penis. The locking cock ring poses no challenge at all. That makes the answer seem obvious.

If all I think about is having the ability to play with my penis, obviously I need the Jail Bird for security.  But it’s not that simple. I’ve been trained not to play with my penis. Even when wild, I didn’t masturbate. I don’t need a chastity device to assure that my only source of sexual pleasure is Mrs. Lion.

I discovered that I do need something. When wild, I missed feeling a device attached to me that I can’t remove. I ordered the locking cock ring to provide a non-removable device that feels like my Jail Bird. Well then, why not the Jail Bird itself? It’s effective and I’ve worn it for years.

I was getting tired of dealing with the difficulty aligning my penis for peeing and the little pinches it gives me during the day. I wanted to see if there might be another option. So, I ordered the cock ring.

In my case, I’m trained not to touch my penis for fun. As a result, the cock ring is just as effective as the Jail Bird. I’m too well trained to cheat. The cage isn’t really necessary. I agree that the cage is cool. It definitely feels more like bondage. But the locking cock ring attaches the same way as the Jail Bird. It’s there and I can’t remove it. So, for me at least, it’s a fair substitute.