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In: diapers, Mrs Lion Comments

Lion craves consistency. So far, the only constant with me is that I’m variable. One day I have no earthly idea what I’m doing and the next I’m threatening to punish Lion  for looking at me funny. One day he thinks he’s putting too much pressure on me and the next he thinks I’ve finally figured it out. Poor Lion never knows which one of my personalities  will show up.

The best I can do is keep going forward. Maybe eventually I’ll figure it out. I wish I could say I’m figuring out what doesn’t work, but I feel like I keep making the same mistakes. Poor Lion.

Last night I almost allowed Lion to masturbate with the condition that he didn’t have an orgasm. Then I decided it would set a bad precedent. Even if it’s done in front of me he shouldn’t be allowed to do it. I was thinking this morning that maybe I can offer him a trade this weekend. He can be wild if he wears diapers. But then do I really want to give him a choice? I mean other than the obvious choice of my telling him to do something and him refusing, in which case he technically choses to be punished.

Sometimes it gets very loud inside my head with all the ideas banging around in there.

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In: Advice for a new keyholder, Advice to caged males, diapers, Femdom, Keyholder, Mrs Lion Comments

Several posts lately have made me wonder what the purpose of this
game is. A caged male trying to extricate himself and someone who
willfully misbehaves just to be punished. I don’t get it. It’s
difficult for me to wrap my mind around the idea of anyone wanting to
be tied up and spanked or have their nipples pinched or enjoying pain.
I guess since I’m almost always in some sort of pain, I can’t imagine
the thrill.

To some extent I can understand a junior Houdini caged male who tries
to break free. It’s a challenge to him. He buys bigger and better
cages to outsmart them. If he has a keyholder I hope she understands
that he’s not breaking free to misbehave. Unless he really is breaking
out just to misbehave. Then he’s like the one who misbehaves to get
punished.

Is it just to get attention? Is it to outsmart the keyholder? What
recourse does the keyholder have? Punishment will be enjoyed. Ignoring
him will cause him to act out more. If I’m being undermined as a
keyholder how long will I want to continue being a keyholder?

I thought spanking Lion fairly hard as punishment was different from
a spanking he likes. Now I find out that he might actually enjoy the
punishment spanking too. Not from a “my keyholder is exercising her
power over me” point of view, but from a “I really love being spanked”
point of view. Do I need to find another way to punish him? Does he
need to be zapped? He’s said the zap is not really a long lasting
deterrent. If I do find another way to punish him I will be worried
that he enjoys that as much as spanking. Every time I think I’m
getting my footing with this the ground gives way a little bit.

I guess I could go back to diapers. I know he hates them and that’s
one of the reasons I stopped making him wear them. The other reason
was the planning. If we were going to be away from home for any length
of time he’d be uncomfortable and there was a risk of leaking and
embarrassment. But if he needs a punishment he doesn’t like then maybe
diapers are the answer. Personally I like the idea of punishment
swats. They’re quick and easy and, I thought, the idea of them hanging
over him all day until I had his naked buns available was daunting to
him. Maybe I need a meaner paddle. Maybe I don’t need to understand
the purpose of the game at all. Maybe I just need to keep playing along.

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In: diapers, Femdom, Keyholder, Male Control (training)

Last night my poor Lion was a little under the weather. Once he was settled in I noticed he hadn’t put on his diaper as required. He went in his home office to check on his websites and after about an hour I took out a paddle and left it on the bed so he’d see it. Eventually I asked him if he forgot something. He looked at me sheepishly and said he’d hoped I would forget about the diaper since he wasn’t feeling well. The truth is, because we have a busy weekend, I was thinking about letting him be diaper free anyway. And had he asked me if he could forego the diaper I would have taken pity on him. But he didn’t ask. He assumed. And to paraphrase the familiar saying, you gave your ass to me, dear Lion. So today my Lion will receive his punishment swats when the mood strikes me.

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In: diapers, Femdom, Lion's Journal, Sex

If you’ve been reading along, you know that my lioness and I have been working through some longstanding issues. Our views of these issues has varied (you can also read about that here too). Since I have been caged, our communications on these subjects has opened up more than before and Mrs. Lion has been working hard to work forced chastity into our lives. Things are certainly far from perfect, but they seem to be moving in the right direction.

Last night I had a big surprise. I was massively horny after Friday night’s ruined orgasm. I was unlocked for my shower. I asked for that since it is hard to clean the mess caused by peeing in a diaper. I’m not complaining. The diapers are a brilliant stroke of topping me. Anyway, after my shower, my lioness teased me to the edge. Friday, when we went shopping, she bought a box of condoms. I didn’t ask what they were for. It was obvious this wasn’t something she wanted to discuss. She didn’t even mention she was looking for them. After the tease last night, I had to ask. She told me that I would eventually find out. Now I was frustrated two ways!

I didn’t have to wait long. A little while later, she got me nice and hard and slipped a condom on. I asked, “Why am I wearing this?”

She replied, “How does sex feel with one on?”

“Not as good.”

“Exactly,” she replied.

“Oh.” Something different was going to happen. My lioness climbed on top of me and put me inside her. It still felt great even with the condom on! She moved for a while and then stopped. It was clearly uncomfortable for her. We tried a few more positions without too much luck. It had been a long time since we had done this. My releases had been by hand and oral for years. Hers were mostly by my hand. I asked her to try riding me again. I know that this position has the best chance of giving her a good orgasm.

This time she mounted me with her butt facing me. She also let me take the condom off. Eureka! This position did the trick. It didn’t take long for her to have a nice orgasm. I was so happy! She told me I could come, but I just wasn’t able. That is usually a good thing, especially with being caged. But last night was special, so after she recovered a bit, she used her hand to bring me to a really good orgasm. We both came! We made love!

I won’t say that we have a magic solution to all our challenges. This wasn’t easy for my lioness. Somehow she found a way to ride me. I have been making a point of being more romantic and initiating affection. We are working on meeting in the middle. I am not sure that being caged is a major factor in this. I know that by virtue of the fact that she has total control of my sexuality, it does force both of us to be far more sexually active than we were before. For me, at least, it feels like a new door is opening in our sex lives. Life can be very good for a caged lion.