Nudity

I guess I wasn’t over my fatigue. I was out of sorts on Monday night, so nothing happened. Today, Tuesday seems much more promising. I went back to sleep after Mrs. Lion started work and slept from 8:30 to 11:30. I think that I’m finally rested and potentially ready for action. I’m not sure what that action will be, but it is likely to include the newly uncovered bondage gear.

A small poll on Twitter asks how our readers feel about pictures of my penis (give your opinion here). So far, half of the people like the pictures, about 15 percent are aroused by them, 21 percent are indifferent, and 15 percent don’t like them. That means a whopping 65 percent enjoy the view. That figure surprises me. I figured the number of people who like seeing my penis would be considerably smaller. I’m delighted that a significant number are aroused by the images. How cool is that? According to the vendor of some of our features, we’ve had 5,260,000 views over the time they’ve monitored our site. That’s been about half of our ten-year history. Conservatively, a million of those views were of pages with views of my privates. It’s a relief to know that I didn’t turn off all those people.

One of the drawbacks of being an independent blogger (I don’t use any of the standard blogging platforms) is that automatic lifetime stats aren’t available. It doesn’t really matter beyond bragging rights. I’m happy to know that we have a lot of readers who enjoy our content.

The decision to show my naughty bits was both easy and challenging. It was easy because it would be difficult to identify me using any of that image. My erection is pretty much the same as any other male of Northern European descent. I suspect that Mrs. Lion could pick me out in a “lineup.” The challenge is that this intimate exposure is still humiliating, even with anonymity. What you see is me, not some image I picked up on the web.

Many bloggers Google images and illustrate their posts with them. Some image searches I’ve made reveal that my penis has appeared  (without permission) on quite a few sites. It’s easy to support the presentation of a fantasy as reality if you steal your images. Other sites will just use silly memes as illustrations. It’s a way to appear to illustrate your topic honestly while showing no evidence of its accuracy in the blogger’s life.

Based on that very tiny poll (so far, it has days to run), we are doing the right thing with intimate photography. Since we self-host our blog, we don’t have nannies threatening to shut us down because (gasp) I reveal my penis. Whew!

Women frequently refer to “down there” as a synonym for their vaginas. It’s an interesting reference. Something “down there” is obviously far away and not intimately connected to the person referencing it. Guys generally refer to their penises as “my cock” or some other possessive reference; never “down there.”

Why in the world would a woman want to disconnect herself from the center of so much pleasure? As a male, this baffles me. “Down there” is one of my favorite places. It’s a tasty, nicely squishy source of fun for both of us. Sure, it can have an odor. Usually, it’s pleasant, sometimes a bit offputting. My cock and balls can also emit scents of their own. Truthfully, I never think about them. My feelings wouldn’t be hurt if a partner asked me to wash. I’m lucky that way. I don’t seem to have much body odor. I don’t use underarm deodorant, and I’ve never been told that my pits smell.

It’s true that my male equipment is external and not easily subject to the problems that can plague a woman “down there.” As a man, I’ve never been disgusted to learn that my partner has a yeast infection or some other vaginal issue. My perception of her “down there” doesn’t change because of things like that.

Women have visual differences between their legs. Some have small inner labia so that their pussies are smooth, unbroken slits. Others display large inner labia. That’s a very nice added decoration in my opinion. One woman I knew had a vagina that was always open and exposed. The first time I saw it, I was surprised. But it was very sexy too, like an orchid, open and inviting.

My point is that people who are sexually attracted to women are almost certainly going to enjoy seeing, touching, smelling, tasting, and fucking “down there.” Any insecurity on the part of its owner is misplaced. You are making a huge mistake if you hide it. Julie of Strict Julie Spanked said that showing her pussy is humiliating and she is turned on by that.

I get it. Being exposed to strangers who aren’t sharing the vulnerability is humiliating in a sexy way. Showing it to a friend or lover is nice. I don’t think that women, even friends, are particularly interested in seeing my penis. Why should they be? That doesn’t mean it’s ugly or smelly. It’s just not relevant to the current relationship or conversation. If asked, I would show. Why not? It’s standard male equipment. The only possible surprise might be my lack of pubic hair. Ho hum. So what?

The reality is that millions of people have seen my penis. Nobody has said that it is ugly. A couple have commented that it’s handsome and yummy looking. How nice! Julie has published some peeks of her pussy. She gets lots of positive feedback about how pretty it is. Her husband is a lucky man.

How about ending references to “down there” and talking about “my pussy, vagina, cunt, etc.?” Public exposure is humiliating because it is unreciprocated vulnerability. It isn’t because you are ugly “down there.”

Over the years, I’ve noticed that women who post naked pictures on Twitter (currently known as “X”) almost always limit their exposure to their breasts and bottoms. Very few show their vaginas, and none expose their faces. I can certainly understand why faces aren’t shown. Most of us want to protect our identities. I think you’ll agree you are unlikely to identify a particular woman on the street based on a naked picture on Twitter or other social media. Female sex bloggers also seem to follow the same pattern.

It’s easy to understand why faces are omitted, but why is it somehow less naughty to show breasts and butts? Years ago, I asked one woman who posted breast and rear views. Her answer was, “I don’t like how I look down there.” That reason never occurred to me. I wonder if this is why most women who are happy to show their bodies keep their vaginas covered?

I always thought it was because they believed they were being more sexual and provocative if they displayed the main target of male lust. I figured that a lifetime of keeping boys and men away from it also extended to showing images. No matter what the reason, there is an indisputable reluctance to show pussy.

That seems a little odd to me. Guys seem to prefer looking at boobs and butts. I started to think that the absence of between-the-legs shots had more to do with what their audience wanted than any personal preference. No, I don’t think so. After all, a frontal image that goes from the thighs to the neck is indisputably sexy. Something else is going on.

There is a belief that online services will censor genital images, even cancel the account of a person publishing them. That’s not true of most social media that allow adult content. Naked boobs and bottoms are just as likely to cause trouble in a family-friendly environment as pussy shots. It is true that some media reject blatant sexuality. Assuming the pose is reasonably modest, that probably doesn’t include a full-frontal nude. Since female arousal is displayed rather subtly, that condition doesn’t seem to be an issue. After all, a turgid nipple could just be the result of a cold room.

We males have a different problem. Media that seems to welcome naked women often has a problem with naked men. Rear views not showing hanging balls seem to be acceptable in most venues that accept female nudity. Frontal exposure is a different matter. WordPress.com, host to many free blogs, will cancel your account if you show a full-frontal view of a naked man. You can probably get away with non-sexual frontal female images.

A lot of women seem to dislike seeing male genitals. They like arms, thighs, backs, and butts, but penises and balls can repel them. Uninvited DMs with pictures of the sender’s hard penis is almost certainly going to turn off the recipient. For that matter, any uninvited nude of either sex is probably going to be unwelcome.

I’ve been told that most women aren’t aroused by seeing naked men. I’m not so sure of that. Mrs. Lion likes to see erect penises. Well, at least she likes seeing mine. I’m pretty sure that if she came across another guy’s erection on a public website, she wouldn’t run screaming from the monitor. I’m also pretty sure that she wouldn’t seek out sites that showed erections.

That makes sense. An erection, by definition, is sexual in nature. Guys don’t get hard in cold rooms. It makes sense that an unexpected image of a hard penis isn’t going to be very well received in most places. It would probably be acceptable to our female readers if images of erect penises, particularly mine, showed up here. This is a website about sex, mainly the male side of it. A female visitor might not want to dwell on the beauty of my boner, but she almost certainly wouldn’t be shocked if she saw it here.

There is a strong difference that this post is trying to expose. Even in places where female genital images are perfectly acceptable, the female publishers of their pictures seem reluctant to show full-frontal nudity. Their male equivalents, like me, are comfortable letting it all hang out, or stick out, depending on my state of arousal. I think we need a little more women’s lib.

My Twitter feed has a bunch of women in the UK that I follow. They often post pictures of themselves. Their nudes feature their bare breasts and bottoms. They almost never show their vaginas. I don’t think this is because they are honoring a belief that Twitter will ban them if they show their genitals. I think it has more to do with how they see themselves.

These same women repost pictures of other women’s breasts and bottoms. They like to add comments like “Sexy” to the repost. It seems that they might not like how their bare vaginas look or, perhaps, don’t think images of them are sexy. These same women often comment that they don’t like strange men sending them pictures of their erections. I can’t blame them for that. Eeew!

The consistency of this practice got me thinking about the way women appear to have a different view of sex. Penises and vaginas are the engines of sex. Breasts and bottoms are visual allures but not naked reminders of what the allure can lead to. I’ve read comments from many women, including Mrs. Lion, that say they like seeing pictures of the hard cocks of men they know. They dislike gratuitous dick pics from strangers.

I like seeing images of naked women that show their genitals. I don’t care if the pussy belongs to a friend or a stranger. Well, that’s not entirely true. I am far more affected by seeing a friend’s naughty bits. Still, I’m always happy to see a stranger too. If you’ve been reading this blog for a while, you know that I don’t mind showing you my penis.

I never expect a picture of my naughty bits to be an invitation for viewers to have sex with me. I just think it’s fun to share. Plus, it feels sexy and vulnerable to put myself out there. Maybe women think that sending out images of their VJs are invitations to visit in real life. Probably not. I suspect the real issue is that a lot of women don’t like how they look down there. That’s why they are happy to show their erect nipples but not that swollen vulva. Too bad. As a heterosexual male, I can say that I like all of a woman’s body. I love seeing a woman’s arousal. A good self-image includes appreciating every part of the beautiful whole.