Hold It!
I had an evil thought based on something I read a very long time ago. I could give Lion an enema and make him hold it for a certain length of time. If he can’t hold it he’d get punished. If he can hold it he’d get a reward. There are at least two issues with this idea.
How long can Lion normally hold an enema? Does that change depending on what he’s eaten, time since last meal, etc.? If I can’t establish an average wait time, I can’t give him a time to beat. If that wait time is contingent upon a variety of factors, I may not be able to give him a time to beat. It is, of course, possible to figure out a wait time based on the different factors. He might have to wait ten minutes under some circumstances and fifteen under others. I don’t know. Just throwing out numbers here.
The other major problem is that I am horrible at giving rewards. I thank Lion when he does something well. I tell him he’s a good boy. I tell him he’s been doing a very good job at X. But an actual reward usually escapes me. What kind of reward do I give him? He gets more orgasms (at least lately) than he can handle. My last reward was candy, but we’re dieting so that’s out. How do you reward a Lion who gets almost everything he wants anyway? (I’m not saying he’s spoiled. He’s just a very lucky boy.)
I’m not even sure Lion wants to do enema play. But if I want to, he has no choice. I don’t think this would be a regular occurrence. Unfortunately, in order to figure out the timing issue, it would have to be a somewhat regular occurrence to begin with. Or it could be used as punishment. Sometimes I give him a choice. Wear a diaper or get spanked, for example. It may be a choice between wearing a diaper or holding an enema for X amount of time.
Just an evil thought I had on the way to work. It doesn’t mean we’ll do it. It doesn’t mean we won’t.
Male Chastity: From Hobby To Lifestyle
There seems to be two routes into male chastity: Hardware and BDSM play. A lot of guys discover enforced male chastity when they find male chastity devices online. It’s a tiny jump to discover endless male chastity fantasies on various sites all over the Web. The BDSM route is a bit more circuitous. Many male-submissive stories talk about orgasm denial where the female dominant teases the poor subby male to the edge of orgasm but just won’t let him ejaculate. This is super-hot play when he is tied down. It was my introduction to orgasm control.
At some point the idea of actually wearing a male chastity device will rise to the top of his consciousness. The next step is ordering one. In some cases, the male will discuss the idea of hardware with his partner before ordering. In either case the intention is to lock up his penis and only unlock it when his keyholder wants access.
The vast majority of couples that do this limit his lockup time. The male chastity device isn’t worn full time. It goes on for some weekend fun once in a while. Orgasm denial including a male chastity device is added to the play options the couple enjoy. The CB2000, granddaddy of practical male chastity devices, was invented for just this purpose.
Some guys, like me, wonder what it would be like to have to wear a male chastity device all the time. In a very real sense I would permanently lose control of my penis. That idea turned me on. Clearly, I am in the minority. Most men who want to play with orgasm denial want their vulnerable time limited to predefined play sessions.
That makes sense. Very few people choose to do any full time power exchanges. It requires a level of commitment that almost no one is prepared to invest. We started male chastity in trial mode. Either of us could stop it at any time. Mrs. Lion expected we would both tire of it quickly. To our surprise we didn’t. We are more committed to it than ever. Male chastity is an integral part of our marriage.
We aren’t typical. Things just happened to click for us. We weren’t trying to make male chastity part of our lifestyle. It just works for us. I wear a chastity device almost all of the time. Occasionally I go “wild”. Even without the cage the rules don’t change. I have given up ownership of my penis. I am not permitted any sexual touching, period. We’re well into our fourth year of male chastity.
Nobody can tell you if this is for you. My suggestion is to try it and see. Read some of the material here and in other similar blogs. If you find reading about it hot, you may find trying it even more fun. Who knows? Maybe after sampling male chastity, it will become part of your lifestyle too. Welcome to the club!
Male Chastity Autopilot
Sometimes I wonder what we’re doing. I guess it’s similar to Lion not wanting to be punished and wishing he could just stop me from doing it. Lion has been fairly good lately. There hasn’t been any need for punishment this week. We’ve settled into an every other day or so orgasm schedule, depending on Lion’s allergies. Because he hasn’t been given an extended wait, he hasn’t been super horny so he hasn’t been in the cage. (He also had a doctor appointment today that required he be wild.) It’s been almost like autopilot. Maybe a self-driving car. We’re just along for the ride. So why do we need the cage at all? And who cares about the rules?
You can have male chastity without a cage. Once the keyholder or dominant partner takes control of the male’s orgasms, you’re practicing male chastity. Cage or not, if the male no longer has any say in when an orgasm occurs, he’s done. The cage may just be symbolic, as it is for us, or it may be needed to physically restrain the male from having an erection or trying to pleasure himself. I know there are times when Lion says it’s a good thing the cage is on because he’s so horny it is tempting to touch himself. I know he tries very hard not to cheat, but he has touched himself when he’s wild. For longer waits, it’s just safer to keep him locked up.
Lion also likes the security of having the cage on. It’s comfortable enough that he can forget it’s there, but when he feels it he knows that he belongs to me and no one else can play with my weenie. I am in control of when my weenie is wild and what sort of fun he’ll be having when he’s allowed out to play. When I lock him up after he’s been wild for a while, he complains about the cage. He’ll say he likes to be wild. I think he just doesn’t like the transition back into the cage.
The rules are in effect unless I suspend them for a certain reason. I may be lax in enforcing them from time to time, but they are in place to remind Lion that I am in charge. If he wants to interrupt me, he does so at his own peril. Some of them are stupid, nothing rules, like spilling food on his shirt. Why is that one still on the books? There’s actually a very good reason. It was created to give me practice at punishing him. We started out small. Since there’s really nothing I want to change about Lion, I had to pick something. I’m all but assured Lion will spill something at some point during the day. Nitpicky? Sure. But even when Lion is on his best behavior in other areas, I still get swatting practice for spillage.
Obviously, some of the rules are more important than spilling food on himself. Not eating before I do and not interrupting me are just good manners. We don’t have any rules that are for Lion’s safety (unless you count the safety of his buns) like telling a kid not to talk to strangers or look both ways before crossing the street. Lion has been taking care of himself for many years without reminders of how to keep himself safe. I really do need to work on some more rules, though. He needs to feel my power.
Male Chastity Reality Check
Male chastity is frequently considered a stand-alone, sexual kink. The most common descriptions talk about orgasms being sparingly granted by a keyholder or a mistress. Hardware, in the form of a male chastity device, is often considered essential.
Is male chastity about sex; really? I know a lot of guys masturbate to stories about men being forced to provide sexual service without any gratification of their own. In some of these stories, the chaste male has to wait months for a single ejaculation. His suffering is a big turn on. That doesn’t sound like sex to me.
Male chastity is about male submission. Chastity is simply one way the submissive male surrenders to his dominant female. The expression of female power is her control of when the male gets to ejaculate. Many guys assume that this means the longer they have to wait, the more submissive they are. Some keep score. They brag about who has had to wait the longest. This sounds to me like an extension of the penis size conversation.
I would argue that this “my wait is longer than your wait” conversation is missing the point of male chastity entirely. The way I see it, male chastity is a form of orgasm control, not necessarily denial. I can understand why extended waits appear to best satisfy this power exchange. The reasoning is that a male will want to ejaculate as often as possible, so the only way to demonstrate orgasm control is to force him to wait for his chance to ejaculate. So, a dominant’s ability to control her male is measured by how long it’s been since his last orgasm.
Isn’t the real measure of control that he ejaculates when his dominant partner/keyholder wants him to? Whether it’s an hour or six months since his last orgasm doesn’t matter. What counts is that his orgasms are at her pleasure. He has no control of the situation. That’s certainly the case for me.
I’m practicing male chastity even if I have an orgasm every day. The reason is that I have no voice in when I get to come. Mrs. Lion decides using any criteria she chooses and that’s it; discussion over. I am sexually submissive to her. She owns the penis that is attached to me. Simple, right?
If you’re interested in practicing male chastity, maybe you should consider that you are asking your partner to do a single, simple thing: decide when you get to come. That’s it. I know, I know that over time other stuff will probably creep in like a chastity device, sexual service on demand, and other submissive acts. But at the root, male chastity is about controlling when the male can have an orgasm.
