Back To Basics — Maybe
A couple of days ago, I asked Mrs. Lion if she was going to tell me when I could wear a shirt around the house. She replied that it was up to me. If I’m cold, I can wear one. I had been routinely wearing one every day regardless of temperature. I’m not cold today, so no t-shirt. She generally likes me to have a bare butt at home. The only exceptions are days she puts out panties for me to wear.
On Friday night, I forgot to get my pill packets before dinner. I asked Mrs. Lion to get them for me. She got them and told me that I was supposed to do that myself. Forgetting pill packets is a spankable offense—so there was no spanking. I don’t know if she will punish me, but she did remind me that I broke a rule. Mrs. Lion waxed me yesterday. I imagine she decided to delay punishment until today.
It’s too easy to forget or put off punishment. Mrs. Lion has a lot to do and disciplining me isn’t generally top of mind for her. It isn’t good for me to get away with things. It’s not that I’m intentionally naughty. I need to build the correct habits. We’ve learned that consistent spankings for breaking a rule results in me remembering to do the right thing. I try not to think too deeply about what this means.
Every couple has “squeeze the toothpaste in the middle of the tube” annoying issues. They aren’t big enogh to get a divorce lawyer, but they are irritating. We’ve learned that consistent punishment for doing things like that generally cures the issue without the stress of bickering or nagging.
A big benefit of domestic discipline is that it provides a simple way to deal with problems. The problem is that it is easy for Mrs. Lion to forget to punish me. I realize that it takes work to train me, but when Mrs.. Lion forgets it makes me wonder if she is losing interest in me. I realize that this is irrational. It feels good when she is using her paddles to help me.
Anniversary Spanking And Sex
We are on a five-day staycation. We had planned to go to a nice spot in Oregon, but we decided to take the loss and stay home. A big reason was the cost. The boarding kennel for our dog was going to cost over $400. The trip would cost over a thousand dollars if we added in gas, meals, and extras. We decided it was worth it to lose the motel cost.
We’ve had a relaxing time so far. Mrs. Lion has been spared many hours of driving, and instead she can relax at home. Well, she has had to take care of a few chores. She spanked me on Thursday night. I yelped right from the start. Cross-crack beatings are much more painful. I can’t object. After all, the entire point of spanking is is to make it hurt.
On the anniversary of our first date, I wanted to have anal sex. That’s what we did when we met for the first time. Yes, it was a bit odd. I found Mrs. Lion on an Internet dating site. We chatted and talked on the phone for a couple of days. We met on the third day and had very hot sex. It may sound odd, but it was what we both wanted.
Obviously, it was the right move. We met and had various kinds of sex several days a week for a while. We both wanted to be together more. It wasn’t just sex. Mrs. Lion moved in with me. We’ve been together ever since.
There’s absolutely no way I can explain what happened. There’s no need to. I’m more in love with her today than I was all those years ago. I’m grateful that she decided to be with me. I’m even happier that she hasn’t changed her mind.
By the way, I got a blow job instead of anal sex. It was wonderful. We’ll get around to anal one of these days.
Anniversary Fun
Our anniversary was two days ago. We have a cluster of important dates in August. We met online and the first time we chatted was August 13. We met in person for the first time on August 16. A few years later, we got married on August 15. We didn’t plan them all being together. Lion likes to think he asked me to marry him. It was more business-like than that. He had just gotten a job, and he said we should get married to protect ourselves. Being married afforded certain rights not available to domestic partners.
Swoon!
I had no plans to get married again. My divorce had been finalized in May. I saw no need to get married again. I knew I wasn’t leaving him. Lion said being married would keep me from leaving him. He knew this wasn’t true. It was just another statement in the pro column for him. By the luck of the draw, I had four days off in a row. In New York state, at the time, you had to wait 24 hours after obtaining your marriage license before being married. We got it and then went to a jewelry store to pick out wedding rings.
Since it was Friday, we had to wait until Monday. I called around looking for a justice of the peace able to do the ceremony on short notice. We found a quaint little town not too far away. We didn’t have a witness, so we dragged a poor lady away from her desk. The whole thing took probably fifteen minutes. We went home with an ice cream wedding cake and celebrated with the dog. It is still the best wedding we’ve ever been to.
To celebrate the other day, we went to the casino and proceeded to lose some money. We ate at the fancy restaurant in the casino and then came home. In a recent post, Lion said he’d never received a full spanking across both cheeks. Before we even decided to go to the casino, I told him he’d be getting one that night. I offered him an out. I was very full from dinner and asked him if he needed a raincheck. Being face down on the spanking bench can be very uncomfortable if your belly is full. He didn’t want a raincheck.
Once he was strapped down, I picked up the new acquisition – the practice baseball bat. I gave him a few warmup swats before launching into things. He was yelping in no time. One of the reasons I don’t normally swat across both cheeks is that one cheek usually gets hit harder. That can be tempered when it’s a wooden paddle, but leather bends and conforms to his buns. I had to switch sides to be sure both sides received similar attention. My right shoulder has been hurting a lot and swatting with it in that position was difficult, so I stuck mostly to wood. That, of course, made him bleed.
After a while, he needed to stop. It was perfectly understandable. I didn’t think they were particularly hard swats, but they were intensified by the fact that there was no break between cheeks. I let him up, and he said, “To be continued.” I had no plans to continue. I’m sure I’ll do cross-cheek swats at some point in the future, but this spanking was over.
[Lion — The cross-cheek spanking is much more effective. When Mrs. Lioin uses a long strap, the wrap adds extra pain. She doesn’t ask for requests when she spanks me. I get what she decides to do.]
Yesterday, being the anniversary of our first in-person meeting, Lion wanted to do anal sex just like the first time. When we actually started, however, I offered him a blow job. Being a smart man, he gladly accepted the offer. Once he was done, we snuggled, and I played with my weenie, which was still hard.
Alternating Cheek or Cross-Crack: Which Spanking Method Is Best?
As far as I can tell, there are two distinct spanking styles. One is the alternating cheek method, and the other is the cross-crack swat. When Mrs. Lion started spanking me, I suggested the alternating cheek method. This one uses a relatively small paddle surface that is applied alternately to the left and right cheeks. This method permits pinpoint accuracy on the most sensative areas of the bottom. Mine are just above my thighs in the “sit spot.”
The cross-cheek method uses a larger paddle (longer anyway) surface and is applied to both cheeks at the same time. It is most often applied a bit higher than Mrs. Lion’s Favorite spots. The main advantage of this mthod is that it allows harder swats and doesn’t give any recovery time between swats. The alternating cheek method allows a little recovery time while the other cheek is being swatted.
Mrs.Lion is a creature of habit and seems to find it difficult to sustain a cross-crack spanking. From my limited experience, I can say that the cross-crack method sends a much more painful message than the alternating cheek spanking. I think it invites the spanker to use more energy. From videos that I’ve watched, the cross-crack spankings seem to get the quickest and strongest responses from the spankee.
The defunct Disciplinary Wives Club advocated cross-crack spankings with a large paddle for severe punishments. They suggested alternating cheek hairbrush spanking for OTK spankings. Since all of my spankings have me strapped to the spanking bench, Mrs. Lion is free to use either method.
When she finishes an alternating cheek spanking, I usually have two blistered and bleeding areas on the lower outside of each cheek (see image, right). I suspect that the pattern would be quite different if she used a larger paddle in a cross-crack spanking. I know that she likes a nice, even red color covering my bottom.With some practice, I suspect a cross-crack beating would yield that.
