In Sickness and Health
Lion is feeling better, as evidenced by his horniness. Apparently I am not done being sick. Friday I fell asleep after I wrote my post. Saturday I thought I was doing better. Yesterday I was not. I slept a lot and just felt crummy. And today I think I’m feeling better again.
He mentioned being horny and made a few buh, buh, buh comments but Lion understood I wasn’t up to much yesterday. He helped with the laundry and made dinner. He even went to the store without me. There was no way I was going to get myself dressed and out of the house.
I should be able to play with him tonight. My balls got some clothes pins attached to them Saturday night. I did a mixture of wooden ones and plastic ones. Not the tiny plastic ones. These are full sized plastic that hurt like hell. In order to test the strength of a clothes pin or other clamping device, you can test it out on the web of skin between your thumb and forefinger. I’m sure there isn’t a 100% direct correlation between the sensitivity of that area and the penis or balls but it gives you some idea of the strength. If it brings tears to your eyes there you can imagine the agony it will give elsewhere.
I may tie Lion’s balls up tonight. He loves bondage and tying his balls is relatively easy unless they try to hide. Obviously there are a few variations of tying his balls but he just loves being tied in any capacity. And then when I jerk him off his balls bounce helplessly. Yummy!
Said The Spider To The Fly
To my surprise, there really are women who want to initiate enforced male chastity with their partners. After my post yesterday, another woman came forward. Her husband is resisting wearing a chastity device. I’ve been sure that only men wanted to be locked up. I’ve said that women don’t initiate caging their men. I’m wrong! Boy, am I wrong. So, in the interest of promoting enforced chastity, here are some of my ideas on how to entice him into your cage.
Before introducing a chastity device, you have to get agreement that you and you alone are the only source of sexual pleasure he can have. That means no masturbation or sexual contact of any kind. That has to be the law. Mrs. Lion made that clear when I asked her to lock me up. I never considered jerking off to be an issue. She let me know it was a betrayal.
Make a rule that he can’t masturbate under any circumstances. If he breaks this rule you will know it. He is expected to report any infractions to you. If you expect to lock him up, he has to accept this condition before you introduce the device. You can suggest it will be easier for him if he is locked. If you have a device, show it to him. Don’t ask him to wear it.
He will slip. You have to punish him when he does. I’ve written a lot about punishment. You can read those earlier posts if you want our take on this. The point is that you are attaching consequences to sex that doesn’t come from you. Keep showing him the cage as a good way to avoid the discomfort of being punished. Don’t push it. His imagination will do the heavy lifting.
Before I go on, I want to remind you that any off-the-shelf chastity device you (or he) purchases will most likely not fit correctly. Wearing it for more than a few hours could be painful. Obviously, you don’t want it to hurt to wear. If he complains wearing the device hurts, take it off and inspect where he is being irritated. Chances are that the base ring will be too tight. In any case, encourage him to partner with you to find a device he finds comfortable. Use the discomfort as a way to recruit his help in locking him up.
There’s another very powerful incentive for him to let you lock him up. Put the device on him “just to see how it looks”. Once on, take his hand and let him feel how the cage affects you. React strongly to his touch. You don’t have to act to do that, I’m sure. Of course, remove the cage after this very short session. He’s starting to associate your arousal with his chastity. It wouldn’t hurt to give him a nice oral release after you unlock him. You get the idea.
The key of getting him caged is to take 100 percent control over his sexual release. Once he agrees to your control, you have to train him to actually transfer it to you. Punishments can’t be fun. Even if you do BDSM switching, his release can not be part of his topping. He may not realize this. Make sure he knows that his penis is not part of any domination you let him try.
Another key strategy is to let him know you are willing to agree to a trial period. Mrs. Lion and I did this when we started. We agreed that I would remain caged for three months. I would not have the option of getting out until that time. When this trial period ended, I could decide to continue or quit. You can agree to just a month. But it will probably take more than that to get a comfortable device. Mature Metal, who makes the Jail Bird I wear, takes about six weeks from order to delivery. We ordered mine after the first month. The device arrived shortly before my trial period ended. I agreed to stay locked.
It takes time to train a man to give up control of his penis. Mrs. Lion and I have written many posts on male orgasm control. Here is one that gives you an idea about edging. I suggest that in the beginning of your orgasm control, you give him frequent opportunities to ejaculate. Be sure that you provide the stimulation. He has to learn that you are his wish granter and pleasure provider.
This is a device I got for $28.30 USD. It was a pretty good fit. The key is to assure you have the right diameter base ring. You can order a set of plastic rings from Mature Metal for $20 USD. One last tip. The device should be short. The shorter the better. A soft penis easily fits into a very short cage. The width of the cage should be about 1/4-inch narrower than his flaccid diameter. Oh, one more thing: throw away the pointy insert. A cage is about comfort and your control, not pain.
Needle In A Haystack
For years I’ve asked people if they knew any women who actually introduced enforced male chastity into her relationship. I had some false leads; men who suggested it and then their partners following through later. No, that wasn’t what I had in mind. I was looking to see if some woman did research and came up with the idea for herself. None were discovered until now. OK, my discovery doesn’t yet count as a full-on female initiated enforced male chastity example; not yet. But it might.
I wrote about the difficulty a woman can face when asked to be dominant. One case I didn’t cover is when the woman decides she is happier as the top. I experienced this with my very first play partner. I expressed my longstanding interest in BDSM. She thought it interesting, but had no experience herself. She was a genius with a measured IQ north of 160. We both did a ton of reading (books, this was before the WWW).
We decided to experiment. We would take turns topping. One day I would top, the next was her turn. After about a week, we discovered that she was really grumpy the day after I topped her. She was cheerful after topping me. I enjoyed being topped. So, we decided that she would be the top all the time. She had fun, particularly when she made me squirm when being beaten with a riding crop.
She got into topping because it was fun for her. We never had sex as part of the scene. But after she was done, she would invariably ask me to be an “attack lion” and mount her. Of course, I did. We were both very turned on by our play. She had no internal struggles with the role of topping me. While the play was sexual to us both, it was never sex.
My needle in the haystack has the same backstory. She started off switching and then she and her husband both realized they were both happier with her as the top.
I learned that she has been reading the Journal. She’s recently starting commenting on the blog. I noticed her comments, we don’t get all that many, and clicked on her website. Her name is Sayyidsgirl. I read her most recent post and then started reading back. One, titled “Penis Power” discussed my recent post “Me and My Penis“. I really like the post. It’s a very interesting woman’s interpretation of my male point of view.
But that’s not the needle in this haystack. Sayyidsgirl actually wrote about locking her husband in a chastity device. Ok, get ready, this is the needle I have finally found: She introduced the idea to her husband and is working on getting him to accept wearing a chastity device. This is the first documented instance of a real female (most so-called keyholder bloggers are males expressing fantasies) discovering enforced chastity and proposing it to her husband. How about that?
She also offered a most interesting insight into why she wants to lock him up. She said,
“Knowing his penis is locked in a cage, only to be taken out and used for my pleasure, then put back away, is a rather delicious thought. The ultimate power and control.”
That’s the magic sentence. Isn’t that the essence of the male chastity fantasy? As far as I can tell, it’s also the only rational reason why a woman would want to lock up her partner’s penis. The other stuff about making him tamer, etc. is pure fantasy. I wonder if this sentence is more than just testing the waters of a power exchange. Does she really feel this way? Is she the Golden Fleece?
Needless to say, I’ve added her blog to my list of blogs I read. I look forward to learning if she actually snaps the lock on a chastity device.and. I can’t wait to find out.
Super Horny Lion
Lion woke up this morning and said he was still stuffy and tired. However, he was also hard which would suggest he didn’t really feel too sick. He’s been very horny for days.
On Thursday he informed me he was horny. Then he asked if he’d mentioned he was horny. At home he said it again. And then asked if he’d told me. He wasn’t being a toddler. He was being funny. Well, trying to be funny. Last night we went to the movies and when we came home he wanted to snuggle. Snuggling led to him being hard. Being hard led to my edging him orally. I got him very close a few times and gently bit down on him to keep him from coming. He said he never felt me biting him. Next time I’ll have to do it harder. (Now I’m trying to be funny.)
I guess there’s no rhyme or reason to why Lion would be so horny at this point or, for that matter, why he’s so not horny at other times. If it’s cyclical then it doesn’t seem to be regular. I don’t think there’s a certain time of the month. Nor is there a certain length of wait. He can be horny after only two days or not at all after six. Maybe it’s just the randomness of life.
In his post this morning, Lion wondered about women being turned on by men. He wonders if women are more attracted to a front view or a rear view. I think he needs to go a step further. Are they attracted to a front view of an erect penis or flaccid? Did they answer rear view because the front view may be flaccid and who wants to see a shriveled up weenie? I’m fairly sure men don’t send dick pics of themselves flaccid.
I like butts. Clothed or otherwise. However, I do like an erect penis. If given a choice between a flaccid penis and a butt, I would choose the butt. If given a choice between an erect penis and a butt, I would have a harder time deciding. Of course, Lion is the exception. Hard or soft, front or back, I am attracted.
