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Here it is Sunday afternoon, and two punishment days have passed with my bottom pristine. I know that Mrs. Lion didn’t forget her decision to spank me on punishment days. I’m sure she remembers that I interrupted her.   I’m pretty sure that her shoulders are too sore to face spanking me. That makes me feel bad, not because I’m not being spanked, but because she’s hurting. Mrs. Lion doesn’t like to admit she hurts or is sick. I wish she would. I may not be able to help, but I can still sympathize and look for ways to make things easier for her.

There’s another issue: we need to find a new house. Yesterday, we looked at one that was just what we wanted. A big real estate company owns it. It had been on the market for three months. We toured the house and spent about a half hour going through very carefully. I wondered why it remained unrented for so long. Houses in this area rent within days of being listed. It turned out that the house had a tiny backyard. That was probably the issue. The house was perfect for us. I started the application to lease it before we left for home. When we got home, the house was no longer listed. I called the management company and they said the house was rented. Huh? It had been vacant for three months. Suddenly it’s gone at the exact time we applied? I’m going to follow up tomorrow and try to find out what happened.

punishment delayed

It’s been over a week since I interrupted Mrs. Lion. Is the upcoming spanking still going to be punishment for that? In the past, we had an informal rule: if too much time went by before a punishment, it would be forgiven. It’s hard to stay focused on an old offense. However, we both realize that discipline and spanking, in general, are important for us. Maybe we need to cancel that old rule.

It’s been ten days since my last spanking. I know that I’m long overdue for a ride on the spanking bench. It’s been a week since my last orgasm. Maybe it’s time for one of them too.  I ordered a new can of IcyHot Max Strength spray for Mrs. Lion. It arrived today. Perhaps I’ll have a burning bottom and burning balls.

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One of the biggest problems I face as a blogger is that my posts not only inform you of what’s happening, but they serve as a reminder to Mrs. Lion of what I notice she is missing. In this case, a punishment spanking (“Getting Back On Track…Again“). She read my post and realized she didn’t spank me on Monday. I was relieved that she had forgotten.

In her post, she mentioned that I was due to be punished for interrupting her. I’m sure I did, but I can’t remember when. Perhaps she’ll remind me at punishment time. I like the idea that she would tell me why I’m being spanked when she has me strapped down, but like the spanking itself, I don’t like her reminder of my sins.

That probably means it’s a good thing for her to do. Everything I’ve read about disciplinary spanking always includes verbal reinforcement of the punishment. Hear it and feel it is better than just feeling it. Maybe the reason I dislike the idea of this conversation is that it underlines the fact that I am being spanked as a punishment, not because I want/need spankings. It’s also humiliating to be reminded so graphically of my mistakes.

The established punishment ritual of lecture followed by spanking must be nearly universal for good reason. I’m starting to understand why. I suspect that Mrs. Lion is uncomfortable with the verbal phase of the punishment. She seems to want to get right to the beating without any preliminaries. I think the verbal part may be as much for her as it is for me.

When she articulates why she is spanking me, she is reinforcing her role and the legitimacy of her actions. It provides context for both of us. It also might help motivate her to make her point more forcefully. We both know that “Just Because” spankings are almost never as forceful as punishments. Now that I’m getting punishment day spankings, whether or not I’ve earned them, I think it is particularly important to let me know that I’ve actually done something this time.

Neither of us wants to complicate the process. We both like just to get things done. Even so, we’ve struggled a bit with differentiating between earned and unearned spankings. This may be the way. It’s something disciplinary spankers all advocate. It will be uncomfortable for us, but it probably makes sense.

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I have actually been following through on spanking Lion on punishment days. I know. It’s only been a few days, but I usually don’t follow through even that long. Maybe it’s because I’ve been using wooden paddles, but I seem to be making my point rather quickly. By that, I mean he’s yelping long before he would with rubber or leather. Maybe not rubber. Those are mean. But his buns are red, and I’ve been happy with the results. I set the timer for ten minutes, but I’ve been stopping at around five.

First of all, these aren’t “real” punishments. Technically. I mean, he has been interrupting me a lot more lately. What he really hates is when I tell him I’m not going to finish my thought. He hates that. Is that another form of punishment? Perhaps. From my point of view, if he interrupts, it means he doesn’t care what I have to say. Then why should I finish? Psychological warfare, I supposed, but isn’t interrupting also a form of psychological warfare? I know he’d much rather have me spank him to get him out of the habit. But he likes spanking. And it adds a “chore” to my list of things to do. If I don’t finish my thought, not only am I free from that “chore” but also from the chore of spanking him. Win-win. For me. Not so much for him.

Anyway, I didn’t necessarily start out to do that. I mean, on some level, I decided not to finish my thought, but it wasn’t really intended as psychological warfare. I just now thought of it that way. I guess my question is, with the caveat that Lion would also like me to find other ways to punish him, (in the past he’s said he’d like it) is withholding the rest of my thought a suitable punishment for interrupting? I’d think it would change his behavior like spanking would. However, it is a mind game. Does that make it off-limits?

Part of me thinks mind games should be off-limits. Part of me thinks not hearing the rest of my thought is the perfect punishment for interrupting. I’m torn. I’m guessing the spanking community will side with Lion. There’s nothing like a good spanking to get one’s point across. I’m not sure who would side with me. There’s torture and there’s torture. Messing with someone’s mind might go against the Geneva convention.

What to do. What to do.

Fine. You all know I’ll decide on spanking over psychological warfare.

[Lion–First, let me say that interrupting should be punished. Now, let me explain the main reason I do it. Mrs. Lion loves pronouns when she speaks. Very often, I have no idea what the actual subject of a sentence is. I get confused and a bit annoyed. Pronouns need an antecedent, right? I think so. However, I still shouldn’t interrupt and deserve to be spanked. I have no idea why, but spanking changes my behavior. Use the tool, Mrs. Lion. :)]

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We did not use Edex last night. I assume that means we’ll use it tonight. It’s also punishment day. Lion reminded me like he’s supposed to. Normally, that would get him out of a spanking, but the other day, I said maybe we should go back to spankings on punishment days. The purpose of having set days was to get us (me) into the habit of punishing him. Since I’ve clearly gotten out of practice, it seems I need a refresher course. Lion can use one too.

I never liked to punish him on the same day as sex because I thought it sent mixed signals. Is he in trouble enough to be spanked, but good enough to have sex? To me, there’s a conflict. Never mind the fact that his buns will be burning when I’m trying to get him off. I don’t think Lion likes this “rule”. In fairness, he has had sex after punishment with no issue.

If he’s fine with having sex and punishment on the same night, I’m fine with it. The only question I have is which happens first? I like to spank him when he gets out of the shower. If I wait, it’s likely to be forgotten. Unfortunately, the same is true of sex. To muddy the waters even more, since we’ve stopped eating lunch, we tend to be hungry so we’ll have celery or olives to tide us over. Lion is usually in bed, trying to stay warm and then, inevitably, he falls asleep.

It’s not all that complicated of a problem. We just have to decide what to do. Obviously, things happen, so our decision can’t be steadfast anyway. Things will have to revolve around whether Lion is even horny on any given punishment day.  And if we decide spanking comes first, maybe he won’t be horny afterwards. Problem solved. Sort of.

I’m open to either. He’s the one who has to endure the beating and then be okay for sex.