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I was very surprised when I read Mrs. Lion’s post yesterday (“Not Going Lion’s Way“). She said that she often thinks about riding me, but I had no idea that she does. The last time she rode me (reverse cowgirl) was in 2018. Has she been considering this for six years? Please do it! I miss being inside her. Sure, all the other stuff we do is fun, but feeling my hard cock inside her is wonderful.

Intercourse stopped when Mrs. Lion stopped wanting orgasms for herself. I’ve given her a few since then, but she still doesn’t want them. I love giving them to her. From a purely selfish perspective, I love how it feels when she rides me. I also wonder if we can try our other old-time favorite position: lion (doggy) style. You may recall that this was how we fucked on our first, second, third, etc. dates. Most of those times, it was anal penetration. Mrs. Lion was always fond of that. We could do that now, too.

We stopped doing it lion-style because I couldn’t remain hard when standing or kneeling behind her. As we now know, this was the beginning of my ED. Now that we have a reliable way to help me get hard, maybe we could do it lion style, too. I have to admit I prefer being ridden, but I would be happy to also do the more traditional way we mate.

It was another surprise when Mrs. Lion came up with her own dice game. Now we have use for both of our new dice. There are two potential conflicts when we use two dice. If Mrs. Lion’s die comes up “IcyHot,” the only kind of sex I can have is a handjob. Given that, if she rolls IcyHot, she doesn’t have to roll the other die. The second conflict comes up if she rolls a “one” on the sex die, and an activity on the BDSM die. My suggestion is that she can either just do the BDSM without sex, or tease me without orgasm. The third situation is if she rolls a one on both dice: snake eyes. I sugges that gets me a spanking and no sex. No more conflicts!

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That’s Mrs. Lion jerking me off.

May is masturbation month, and I haven’t even mentioned it. Of course, I don’t masturbate. I haven’t since December 2013, when Mrs. Lion put her paw down and forbade it. Generally speaking, masturbation is considered a healthy sexual practice. Regular orgasms are good for you. Mrs. Lion’s point was that since she was my mate and perfectly capable of providing me with sex, there was no reason for do-it-yourself orgasms. That does put me at a disadvantage in May.

Actually, it doesn’t. Mrs. Lion stopped wanting orgasms for herself several years ago. She provides orgasms for me. Depending on how you define it, the sex I get is masturbation. Most have been oral in the last year or two, though recently, handjobs have returned. I love both. Most people consider handjobs as masturbation and oral as intercourse. I suppose that is fair. Oral sex does involve my penis being taken into Mrs. Lion’s body. A handjob substitutes her hand for mine.

Almost all of my handjobs are done dry–no lube. I think that Mrs. Lion doesn’t like the mess of getting her hands and my cock and balls covered with lube. [Mrs. Lion — I’ve used lube a number of times. I was under the impression Lion didn’t really like it. Live and learn.] Her dry technique is excellent and usually gets the job done. I think with some experimenting, lube might be even more fun for me. There are some new factors that come into play when lube is used. The most obvious one is the lube itself. There are a lot of them on the market and each has unique properties. We have a few that Mrs. Lion can try. I’ve also ordered one from the UK that gets high praise for handjobs in Europe. However, we can start with what we have.

The second big factor is technique. A lubed handjob requires much more contact than a dry one. I imagine that Mrs. Lion’s entire hand around my penis might work best if I’m fully greased up. Also, I’m very fond of humping her hand while she holds it still high enough for me to “fuck” it. I’ve always loved to do that with or without lube. Mrs. Lion seems reluctant to let me. [Mrs. Lion — Nope. I love when he does this. The only problem I have is trying to match my movements with his. Maybe I just have to sit back, leave my hand in one position, and let him do all the work.]

Hand-humping also gives us the chance to try other positions. I could stand or kneel to hump her hand. She could also vary pressure or release my cock as a way to tease me. Masturbating me can be a creative activity. I often wonder if Mrs. Lion just wants to get it over with as quickly as possible. I think that’s why she doesn’t like restraining me or doing other things as part of sex. She’s smart and creative, just not motivated.

That’s probably the biggest problem. We have a lot of toys that might be fun for her to use on me. They range from anal to CBT and bondage. I realize that her energy is often low. She’s also been under the weather and has a sore shoulder. These factors push getting me off down her list of things to do. The problem, I think, is understanding how I perceive sex. It isn’t just getting off. Sure, I love a blow job or a handjob, but I have a lot more fun if it is more creative. Making me hump her hand doesn’t take any extra energy. Using restraints adds maybe ten minutes to what we do. I am grateful for her love and attention. I just wonder if sex became more of an adventure for me if my ED would go away or, at least, be easier to manage. I suspect my problem is pyschological more than physical. I may be wrong, but the worst that can happen is more fun.

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We have been a little under the weather for the past few days. I’ve been snoozing in the afternoon and evening. Mrs. Lion has also been less than bouncy. She is still working on unpacking. We probably have at least 80 cartons still awaiting her attention. I’ve also been revising my book. I decided to take another shot at getting an agent. Being a novelist has to be one of the most frustrating jobs in the world. Why the hell did I think I could write a book and get it published? Ego and stupidity!

It’s been a while since my last spanking. Mrs. Lion is having enough trouble working and dealing with thehouse without worrying about bruising my bottom. However, on one of her expeditions into the boxes she is unpacking, she unearthed the leather paddle I made many years ago. This particular paddle isn’t very pretty, but has the potential to bruise my bottom. I made it out of three layers of full-thickness cowhide. It is what I hoped the paddle from 6-Whips would be/ I have a feeling that when Mrs. Lion feels better, she will be using her discovery on me.

Earlier in the week we did an Edex injection and Mrs. Lion used her mouth to get me off. I just couldn’t get over the top. We were going to try again on Monday night, but neither of us were up to it. I’m hoping our energy is coming back enough for us to go for the gold tonight or tomorrow.

I still owe a review of the Mature Metal waist chain and micro chastity device. I’ve been experimenting with both. They represent a departure from my usual approach to male chastity. The base ring with waist chain solves two problems that some men have: It prevents pull-out regardless of how small the cage is and provides a strong sense of control by the man wearing it.  More when testing is complete.

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erection

Does size count? I hope not! There’s no getting around it; my penis is barely adequate. Some time ago Mrs. Lion made a silicone cast of my weenie. Looking at the disconnected likeness of my cock was a disappointing revelation. I’ve been handling it all my life. It felt just fine when pumped up. But my little six-inch weenie isn’t much in a world of eight-inch monsters. None of the women who have handled it laughed or commented on its size. The didn’t gasp or whisper, “Oh my God!” either.

I’ve never given size much thought. I’ve measured and have been measured when soft. That’s the only way to get a male chastity device that fits. My flaccid length is definitely on the short size, barely two inches. When hard, it grows to about six inches long and one-and-a-half inches in diameter. I’ve been told it looks cute. Cute? Sheesh!

My penis isn’t exactly a secret. Over five million people have seen it in various poses that range from soft and”cute” to hard with clothespins attached. I’ve only received one comment from a guy who said it looked cute and suckable. Only one comment in ten years and over five million views. I didn’t expect to have a fan club, but still…

What promted this painful memoir was a picture that popped into my Twitter feed. Holy shit! Is that what women want? I don’t have it if they do. No wonder Mrs. Lion lost interest in sex. She has a life sentence with my tiny dick. When I was locked in a male chastity device she didn’t have to deal with my low-rise erection. Maybe we should go back to locking me up.

double whammy

My sex life has become very difficult. The biggest issue is that I’m the only one in this marriage interested in sex. Mrs. Lion is done with sex for herself. She kindly gets me off. Sex is all one-way. Foreplay is limited to what Mrs. Lion wants to do to get me aroused. This has been going on for a very long time: nearly half of our marriage. She deserves a lot of credit for taking care of my needs. Let’s face it, sex isn’t something she wants; it’s a service she gives me. Foreplay is almost impossible. When both of us were interested in sex, our foreplay increased in intensity as we both got more and more aroused. That doesn’t happen now. I miss it.

My ability to get hard has also suffered. I need to get an injection of Edex in order to get a full erection. The process of preparing the solution and then injecting it into my penis is about as far from foreplay as you can get unless you are into medical scenes. To make matters worse, Edex is expensive so there os pressure to make every shot count.

Given all this, it’s amazing that there is any sex at all. Now that Mrs. Lion has discovered that hand jobs work again, she seems inclined to jerk me off as soon as the Edex gets me hard. I don’t want to seem ungrateful, but this is not what I want. A handjob is fun at the end of some BDSM, but just jerking me off as soon as I get hard feels impersonal and not much fun for me. I guess that from Mrs. Lion’s perspective, sex is just another chore she has to do before she can go play on her iPad. I’m grateful she takes the time to get me off.

I don’t know what we can do about this. I know that Mrs. Lion can have orgasms; she just doesn’t want them. I don’t understand that, but it’s how she feels. The problem is that activities like kissing and petting have also stopped when sex became one-way. I miss that, too. The only intimate activity we do that doesn’t involve directly stimulating my penis is spanking. I want to find more we can do.